Okay, so it is true. Women can be complicated creatures. But what human being isn’t? Although we each have our own needs, quirks and foibles, when it comes down to it, there are a few basic things that every woman wants. Now it’s up to the men to pay attention.
It’s amazing to me how many articles, television shows, movies, songs, and books exist about male and female relationships. And how sadly accurate many of them are. With all this material out there, why do so many problems still exist between men and women?
The Gender Gap
Men aren’t listening. And I don’t really blame them. I don’t even like Sex and the City so I can’t expect my boyfriend to faithfully watch every episode and quote it like some almighty dating bible. Although that show is full of things that men would (rightfully) cringe at, there are points to heed. Namely, cliches exist for a reason.
The things that seem painfully obvious to women are going unnoticed by men, likely because they haven’t spent hours happily identifying with women indulging in insecurities and sharing laughs about terrible dates. So women – give your man a break here and realize that although you feel inundated with ideas for dating, romance and sex, many men have put the blinders on because those things just don’t seem important to them. That is, until they are left out in the cold, heartbroken because the girl of their dreams gave them the boot for seemingly no reason.
Pay Attention Boys
Here’s the thing – women want a few basic things: trust, loyalty, friendship, laughs, respect. And a satisfying sex life. Nothing earth shattering.
Here’s where we get annoyed – when things about women that seem built into pop culture, escape your minds. I understand that you may not want to watch Oprah and see every “chick flick” out there but there are certain things that you really should know by now.
To clarify:
· We do not like to be called fat.
· We need foreplay.
· We like to be called if you are going to be late. These are three little things that can make a huge difference in a relationship. Maybe they don’t seem like a big deal to you men or maybe you don’t understand, but we don’t need you to. Just do them. Please.
Be a Gentleman
If you want to go above and beyond the basics, it’s also good to keep in mind that women like to be treated nicely. Again, I wouldn’t think you’d have to be told and I’m sure many of you don’t, but lately I’ve been hearing some pretty incredible stories from friends. In one story, a guy asked my friend out, took her to a bar, ordered her a drink and then summoned her to come pay for hers. Boy was she swept off her feet!
Don’t get me wrong, neither she, nor I, nor most women are looking for Mr. Fancy Pants to wine and dine us and spend all his money on us. Negative stereotypes of men and women don’t help us get any closer to understanding each other. It’s not the saved money and free drinks we appreciate, it’s the chivalry, the extra effort. That little gesture that says I care. It doesn’t have to be monetary, it can be holding a door, a compliment, even just turning off the cell phone while you are out together.
Mutual Appreciation
I’m sure no man goes out with the intention of annoying a girl or being insensitive. There are differences between how men and women relate, so it should be expected on both ends by now that things don’t always progress seamlessly.
The effort really does make a difference. We are all from different walks of life and have different expectations for each other and for life in general. Women want to be appreciated, as I’m sure men do. It may seem crazy to you if a girl flies off the handle because you were an hour late, but the thing is, women can be a little crazy. Evidently unbeknownst to some of you, women spend hours primping and preparing for dates, for our boyfriends, even for our husbands. Legs must be shaved, makeup applied, hair done so that we feel attractive and sexy for you!
If a woman does something nice for you and you notice, (please tell me you notice), tell her. If she cooks you dinner, try to return the favor. Be honest and supportive and she will do the same for you.
Monday, July 28, 2008
how to be an attractive man?
Attractiveness doesn't only come as looks. Regardless of how good looking you are, if you don't know what to do, what not to do, what to say, and what not to say, your chance of landing your dream girl is slim to none.
Most often, popular guys are not the ones with celebrity looks, but the ones who have mastered themselves in the art of “true attractiveness.” For those still struggling with what makes men truly attractive to women, I offer some advice.
Be Responsible
You are going on a date with your girlfriend, you are driving, and luckily, you get stuck in traffic. Suddenly, you start venting about how everyone should just stay home and not bring their stupid cars out just to jam the street. You complain about how the road system in the city sucks and how you will not be able to make it to the movie on time. What would your girlfriend think of you?
How about using that time to have a conversation about something you haven't spoken about so far? You are the one who initiated the date, so why not try to make the most out of this not-so-pleasant situation?
Instead of venting at everybody, which does nothing more than show how immature you are, start a conversation about the movie you will be seeing that evening. Or, if you have that sense of humour, crack a few jokes, which is totally harmless. Your girlfriend will definitely notice how hard you are trying to lighten up the situation - and she'll enjoy it, too.
Be Humble
Every person this planet values humility as one of the greatest human virtues. Women like men who are confident but at the same time, humble. As a society, we sometimes take humility to mean lack of confidence, but humility and confidence can definitely go together. When such a combination is found in a man, a woman will definitely be attracted.
Loosen Up
What's even more important than the look is the voice. A Man who has a low tone of voice and relaxed shoulders exudes confidence and appeal to women. They see him as reliable. If you look too strained, even though your portfolio might be stellar, women generally will not find you as attractive.
The Little Things Matter
Kindness is good, but if kindness is the only thing going for you, you are out of luck. Add a tough side to your kindness and you will boost your score on the popularity scale.
If your girlfriend is struggling with the menu, take the lead and say, “Why don't we try this? It's really good. You will like it.” Don't just sit there and keep asking, “So, what do you want?” There is a difference between rushing her and taking the lead. The latter is a very good thing! You are sure to earn a few extra points.
Be an Entertainer
An entertainer doesn't have to be on TV every night. If you have what it takes to make your girlfriend laugh, cry, smile, and frown, then you are her entertainer.
Love must be true and genuine, but just for now, treat your relationship like stage. Think about each scene, where each character is and what they will say. Think about how the play will begin and end. Make her the heroine and you, her prince charming.
Every girl says they want to meet prince charming, and he is character straight out of a story. You may not be prince charming but you can be the closest thing there is.
Most often, popular guys are not the ones with celebrity looks, but the ones who have mastered themselves in the art of “true attractiveness.” For those still struggling with what makes men truly attractive to women, I offer some advice.
Be Responsible
You are going on a date with your girlfriend, you are driving, and luckily, you get stuck in traffic. Suddenly, you start venting about how everyone should just stay home and not bring their stupid cars out just to jam the street. You complain about how the road system in the city sucks and how you will not be able to make it to the movie on time. What would your girlfriend think of you?
How about using that time to have a conversation about something you haven't spoken about so far? You are the one who initiated the date, so why not try to make the most out of this not-so-pleasant situation?
Instead of venting at everybody, which does nothing more than show how immature you are, start a conversation about the movie you will be seeing that evening. Or, if you have that sense of humour, crack a few jokes, which is totally harmless. Your girlfriend will definitely notice how hard you are trying to lighten up the situation - and she'll enjoy it, too.
Be Humble
Every person this planet values humility as one of the greatest human virtues. Women like men who are confident but at the same time, humble. As a society, we sometimes take humility to mean lack of confidence, but humility and confidence can definitely go together. When such a combination is found in a man, a woman will definitely be attracted.
Loosen Up
What's even more important than the look is the voice. A Man who has a low tone of voice and relaxed shoulders exudes confidence and appeal to women. They see him as reliable. If you look too strained, even though your portfolio might be stellar, women generally will not find you as attractive.
The Little Things Matter
Kindness is good, but if kindness is the only thing going for you, you are out of luck. Add a tough side to your kindness and you will boost your score on the popularity scale.
If your girlfriend is struggling with the menu, take the lead and say, “Why don't we try this? It's really good. You will like it.” Don't just sit there and keep asking, “So, what do you want?” There is a difference between rushing her and taking the lead. The latter is a very good thing! You are sure to earn a few extra points.
Be an Entertainer
An entertainer doesn't have to be on TV every night. If you have what it takes to make your girlfriend laugh, cry, smile, and frown, then you are her entertainer.
Love must be true and genuine, but just for now, treat your relationship like stage. Think about each scene, where each character is and what they will say. Think about how the play will begin and end. Make her the heroine and you, her prince charming.
Every girl says they want to meet prince charming, and he is character straight out of a story. You may not be prince charming but you can be the closest thing there is.
signs that he is not the one
After enduring weeks of single girl sympathy, you finally agreed to let your cousin set you up with that "great guy" she knows. Since you said yes, you figure you might as well make the most of it and keep an open mind. But, just in case, you ask your best friend to call your cell about a half hour into the date so you can fake an emergency if needed.
Actually, it's not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend's call saying, "Oh no! That's terrible! I'll be right over."
He's Late
This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn't have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn't expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can't help it, but he'd better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late.
He's Not Dressed to Impress
You've spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he's washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he's dressed for a monster truck rally.
He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally
Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there's bound to be trouble.
The fact that he didn't bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker's thoughts on the plan) doesn't bode well for how he's going to respect your needs and wants in the future.
He Expects You to Pay
It's not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there's nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).
No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn't give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won't see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.
He Talks About his Ex
So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.
If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn't call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It's not a good sign if he can't say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.
How Can I Put This.? He's a Weirdo.
Yes, it's time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.
Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours
When he's not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It's normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can't think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it's time to call it a night.
If it's twenty minutes in and you've run out of things to talk about, you probably don't have much of a future together.
Actually, it's not even faking. Bad dates are emergencies. However, lucky for you, there are warning signs that the person you are out with is, and always will be, a terrible date. If you are unlucky enough to experience any of them first hand, make sure to answer your friend's call saying, "Oh no! That's terrible! I'll be right over."
He's Late
This one is pretty basic. If a guy doesn't have enough enthusiasm for the date to actually show up on time, you shouldn't expect to be impressed by the rest of the night. Obviously, there are times when you just can't help it, but he'd better have a good reason if he shows up at your door even 15 minutes late.
He's Not Dressed to Impress
You've spent hours on your hair and a pile of rejected clothes covers your bed. You are finally dressed to the nines in the perfect outfit and ready for the evening. You open the door and are surprised to be greeted by your date in torn jeans and a stained t-shirt. You doubt he's washed his hair today (or yesterday). You expected a nice night out and he shows up looking like he's dressed for a monster truck rally.
He Takes you to a Monster Truck Rally
Original and unique first dates are a great way to stand out from the rest of the fish in the sea, but there are exceptions. He should at least do a little research into your style before he plans an unusual activity. Sure, he might really love hot dogs and monster trucks, but if you were thinking fine dining and theatre, there's bound to be trouble.
The fact that he didn't bother to ask your opinion beforehand (or at least get the matchmaker's thoughts on the plan) doesn't bode well for how he's going to respect your needs and wants in the future.
He Expects You to Pay
It's not absolutely necessary that he pick up the check. Along with all those useful freedoms like voting, the feminist movement also brought us the responsibility of at least offering to pay for half the date. Most guys still think it's chivalrous to pick up the tab for the first date and there's nothing wrong with indulging his male ego (after an appropriate amount of protesting of course).
No girl is expecting a man to drop a fortune on a first date, but a guy who expects you to pay for everything without lifting a finger to open his own wallet doesn't give off the impression that he cares much what you think of him. In fact, he probably won't see a second date (and maybe not even the end of the first one). A good rule of thumb for payment is: whoever asks for the date, pays for the date.
He Talks About his Ex
So maybe you escaped the monster truck rally, but instead of choking on exhaust fumes and standing in a sea of drunken mullets, you get to hear all about his wonderful or horrible ex-girlfriend. Bonus trouble points if he had a nasty breakup and insists on sharing the details with you.
If he refers to his ex even once with a derogatory insult that you wouldn't call your worst enemy, run for the hills now. It's not a good sign if he can't say anything nice about the last woman with whom he had a significant relationship.
How Can I Put This.? He's a Weirdo.
Yes, it's time to weed out those with personal quirks that you find distasteful or generally unacceptable. This will be different for every woman of course (some chicks really dig witchcraft, guys that live with their moms or Dungeons and Dragons enthusiasts). Regardless, that tight knot that is forming in your stomach while you listen to his ideas, habits and activities, should not be ignored.
Awkward Moments vs. Awkward Hours
When he's not filling you in on his wacky life, the conversation stalls into silence or unintelligible grunting. It's normal to have a little awkwardness or difficulty getting conversation to flow in the beginning of a first date, but if after a few minutes, he still can't think of a single question to ask about your life or keep up with the conversation, it's time to call it a night.
If it's twenty minutes in and you've run out of things to talk about, you probably don't have much of a future together.
love and lust
Lust is always mistaken as love. Lust is passion. Lust is desire. Lust is therefore not love. It can be difficult for the inexperienced to distinguish between the two emotions. Especially, in the beginning of a relationship when sexual feelings are stronger.
Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.
Love
Love is the emotional attachment in a relationship. Love is the sincere feeling of affection and devotion that you have for your partner. It is a deep, profound, and pure emotion that does not sway easily. Love is an emotion that can take years to build up and can only be felt for someone you hold dear.
Lust
And then there is lust. Lust can be felt towards anybody with a sufficient amount of sexual appeal. Lust is so sensual in it's raw nature of being and can be formed instantly. It is a strong, excessive craving for sexual intimacy that can be difficult to control.
It is probably lust if sex is the main basis of your relationship. Can't keep your hands off each other? Is sex the only thing that you look forward to with this person? It is probably lust. A relationship founded on lust will only last as long as the two people involved are sexually attracted to one another; this can wear off fast.
the beggining of a new relationship
The "Courting Phase" does not refer to the courtship process which precedes a relationship. The courtship process is when you attempt to charm someone into forming a relationship with you. The courting phase, however, is the very beginning of a new relationship itself; just after a successful courtship.
In the courting phase, both parties maintain that fascinating charm which they used to attract their partner in the first place. The courting phase is where most broken promises & exaggerate words are said as you are still trying to impress each other. Things like 'I've never felt this way about anyone else before' or 'I think we have something special between us' are said. Although these statements are made with good intentions, they are often inaccurate and are based mainly on feeling as oppose to logic.
A couple in the courting phase also tend to be very "playful" with one another and prefer to spend every free moment together.
Although not every relationship passes through this courting phase, it happens often enough. Just make sure you are beyond this point before you start taking any serious steps in the relationship.
In the courting phase, both parties maintain that fascinating charm which they used to attract their partner in the first place. The courting phase is where most broken promises & exaggerate words are said as you are still trying to impress each other. Things like 'I've never felt this way about anyone else before' or 'I think we have something special between us' are said. Although these statements are made with good intentions, they are often inaccurate and are based mainly on feeling as oppose to logic.
A couple in the courting phase also tend to be very "playful" with one another and prefer to spend every free moment together.
Although not every relationship passes through this courting phase, it happens often enough. Just make sure you are beyond this point before you start taking any serious steps in the relationship.
living with your lover?
Living together is a really big step in a relationship and is a sign of commitment from both parties involved. The effects and consequences of making the move are difficult to predict as every situation is different. Whether living together is right for your relationship will depend on how you view the situation and what you are willing to sacrifice.
The Pros
The great thing about moving in together is that you can "test the waters" for marriage. If everything is still well after living together for a while, and you have accepted this person's routines and habits, this experience will add to the foundation of the new marriage if that were to happen down the road.
You can both use this opportunity to really get to know your partner, specifically, their bad habits and undesirable qualities that may have lay dormant before living together. There may be something about their habits at home that strikes a pet peeve of yours. It is better to discover these things now rather than after marriage, as it is much easier to get out of a living situation than a marriage if the unfortunate case may arise.
The main argument of the opposition to moving in is that it takes away all the excitement when you do decide to get married. It just defeats the purpose of your whole marriage altogether and gives you nothing to look forward to.
What may also end up happening is that one person may become far too comfortable with the situation while the other is left wondering if the marriage will ever happen.
Then there is always the religion aspect of things. A man and a woman are not meant to be sexually active before a marriage. And let's face it, living together and sharing the same bed may make this rule a bit difficult to adhere to.
The Pros
The great thing about moving in together is that you can "test the waters" for marriage. If everything is still well after living together for a while, and you have accepted this person's routines and habits, this experience will add to the foundation of the new marriage if that were to happen down the road.
You can both use this opportunity to really get to know your partner, specifically, their bad habits and undesirable qualities that may have lay dormant before living together. There may be something about their habits at home that strikes a pet peeve of yours. It is better to discover these things now rather than after marriage, as it is much easier to get out of a living situation than a marriage if the unfortunate case may arise.
The main argument of the opposition to moving in is that it takes away all the excitement when you do decide to get married. It just defeats the purpose of your whole marriage altogether and gives you nothing to look forward to.
What may also end up happening is that one person may become far too comfortable with the situation while the other is left wondering if the marriage will ever happen.
Then there is always the religion aspect of things. A man and a woman are not meant to be sexually active before a marriage. And let's face it, living together and sharing the same bed may make this rule a bit difficult to adhere to.
true love or fake love?
Finding out if what you have is true love can be tricky. Feelings must be analyzed before they can be identified for what they truly are. The best way to find out how you really feel about someone is to sit down and dissect the relationship.
Signs Of Not Real Love
Possible signs that it isn't true love is you...
think of your partner as absolutely perfect
are concerned with your needs first
need to spend all your free time with your partner
quickly became infatuated with your partner
tend to be jealous easily
can't come to a compromise after fighting
Signs Of A True Love
Possible signs that what you have may be true love is you...
accept your partner and their flaws
are concerned with your partner's needs first
are comfortable being apart from one another
slowly fell for your partner
trust your partner completely
are able to resolve a fight and grow stronger through it
Signs Of Not Real Love
Possible signs that it isn't true love is you...
think of your partner as absolutely perfect
are concerned with your needs first
need to spend all your free time with your partner
quickly became infatuated with your partner
tend to be jealous easily
can't come to a compromise after fighting
Signs Of A True Love
Possible signs that what you have may be true love is you...
accept your partner and their flaws
are concerned with your partner's needs first
are comfortable being apart from one another
slowly fell for your partner
trust your partner completely
are able to resolve a fight and grow stronger through it
ways to say iloveyou...
English - I love you
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe
Afrikaans - Ek het jou lief
Albanian - Te dua
Arabic - Ana behibak (to male)
Arabic - Ana behibek (to female)
Armenian - Yes kez sirumen
Bambara - M'bi fe
Bangla - Aamee tuma ke bhalo aashi
Belarusian - Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya - Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian - Obicham te
Cambodian - Soro lahn nhee ah
Cantonese Chinese - Ngo oiy ney a
Catalan - T'estimo
Cheyenne - Ne mohotatse
Chichewa - Ndimakukonda
Corsican - Ti tengu caru (to male)
Creol - Mi aime jou
Croatian - Volim te
Czech - Miluji te
Danish - Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch - Ik hou van jou
Esperanto - Mi amas vin
Estonian - Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian - Afgreki'
Faroese - Eg elski teg
Farsi - Doset daram
Filipino - Mahal kita
Finnish - Mina rakastan sinua
French - Je t'aime, Je t'adore
Frisian - Ik hâld fan dy
Gaelic - Ta gra agam ort
Georgian - Mikvarhar
German - Ich liebe dich
Greek - S'agapo
Gujarati - Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon - Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian - Aloha wau ia oi
Hebrew - Ani ohev otah (to female)
Hebrew - Ani ohev et otha (to male)
Hiligaynon - Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi - Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong - Kuv hlub koj
Hopi - Nu' umi unangwa'ta
Hungarian - Szeretlek
Icelandic - Eg elska tig
Ilonggo - Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian - Saya cinta padamu
Inuit - Negligevapse
Irish - Taim i' ngra leat
Italian - Ti amo
Japanese - Aishiteru
Kannada - Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan - Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili - Nakupenda
Konkani - Tu magel moga cho
Korean - Sarang Heyo
Latin - Te amo
Latvian - Es tevi miilu
Lebanese - Bahibak
Lithuanian - Tave myliu
Malay - Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam - Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Mandarin Chinese - Wo ai ni
Marathi - Me tula prem karto
Mohawk - Kanbhik
Moroccan - Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl - Ni mits neki
Navaho - Ayor anosh'ni
Norwegian - Jeg Elsker Deg
Pandacan - Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan - Inaru Taka
Papiamento - Mi ta stimabo
Persian - Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin - Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish - Kocham Ciebie
Portuguese - Eu te amo
Romanian - Te iubesc
Russian - Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic - Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian - Volim te
Setswana - Ke a go rata
Sign Language - ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing 'I Love You')
Sindhi - Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux - Techihhila
Slovak - Lu`bim ta
Slovenian - Ljubim te
Spanish - Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili - Ninapenda wewe
Swedish - Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German - Ich lieb Di
Tagalog - Mahal kita
Taiwanese - Wa ga ei li
Tahitian - Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil - Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu - Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai - Chan rak khun (to male)
Thai - Phom rak khun (to female)
Turkish - Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian - Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu - mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese - Anh ye^u em (to female)
Vietnamese - Em ye^u anh (to male)
Welsh - 'Rwy'n dy garu di
Yiddish - Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba - Mo ni fe
taking your lover back... should you?
The Happy Times Vs the Sad Times
If you have to put thought into whether the happy times surpassed the sad times, the answer should be clear: Don't give him a second chance because he didn't make you happy. Giving him another chance will only cause you to revisit the past and encounter the same problems over again. If you had major problems then chances are they aren't likely to dissolve into thin air.
All relationships have their ups and downs but emotional turmoil should not be an everyday occurrence. If he doesn't understand why you get upset at him all the time, then it might be the right time to find someone who can communicate on the same level as you and understand why you react the way you do.
However, if you've worked through problems successfully before and feel as though your relationship encompasses something special which is worth working out, give it another shot.
The Opinions of Friends
Did your family and friends approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to make his way back into your life?
Your friends and family are the ones who know you best and support the fact that you should be treated in a way that keeps you happy. They are your personal support system and are always at your side when you need a shoulder to cry on, and they provide you with advice when you are confused or distraught.
If your friends and family don't approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to weasel himself back into your life then it might be a sign. How can you allow a man who isn't respected by the closest people in your life to claim such an important status in your life? Does he really deserve it, or did he manipulate you in order to obtain such a place in your heart?
Clearly, figuring out whether or not he deserves a spot in your social circle should be thought through before you let him back into your life.
The Reasons Behind the Break Up
Take some time to reflect on a moment in the past when he broke your heart. Do you remember yourself crying on a friend's shoulder or drinking the night away with friends in order to forget about the way he hurt you or made you cry? Are you prepared to repeat such a process if his scheming ways strike again?
Heartbreak can be encountered in any relationship. However, giving a guy another chance once he has already broken your heart can be an extremely regrettable judgment call. An important question to ask yourself is why you would want to be with him if he doesn't want to be with you. Unless you are able to communicate what went wrong previously and how you can make things better, conflict will be an inevitable and unavoidable matter.
Look at all Sides
Examining all these factors is important before determining whether or not he deserves a second chance. The answer might be quite clear even though you refuse to admit it to yourself. You might find yourself searching for reasons to let him crawl back into your life, but make sure you remember how you were treated previously and ask yourself if it is what you really want in a relationship.
Figuring out whether or not there is a spot for him in your future is ultimately your own personal decision.
Happiness matters most
Sometimes women fall back into relationships because they are used to a certain routine of being with a man, or simply don't want to feel lonely. But revisiting a painful past while realizing you could be exploring new options will just cause an elevated level of emotional anxiety.
Feeling happy with yourself is the most important and if getting back together with your ex-boyfriend will prohibit this from happening, then it is time to move on.
If you have to put thought into whether the happy times surpassed the sad times, the answer should be clear: Don't give him a second chance because he didn't make you happy. Giving him another chance will only cause you to revisit the past and encounter the same problems over again. If you had major problems then chances are they aren't likely to dissolve into thin air.
All relationships have their ups and downs but emotional turmoil should not be an everyday occurrence. If he doesn't understand why you get upset at him all the time, then it might be the right time to find someone who can communicate on the same level as you and understand why you react the way you do.
However, if you've worked through problems successfully before and feel as though your relationship encompasses something special which is worth working out, give it another shot.
The Opinions of Friends
Did your family and friends approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to make his way back into your life?
Your friends and family are the ones who know you best and support the fact that you should be treated in a way that keeps you happy. They are your personal support system and are always at your side when you need a shoulder to cry on, and they provide you with advice when you are confused or distraught.
If your friends and family don't approve of your ex-boyfriend who is trying to weasel himself back into your life then it might be a sign. How can you allow a man who isn't respected by the closest people in your life to claim such an important status in your life? Does he really deserve it, or did he manipulate you in order to obtain such a place in your heart?
Clearly, figuring out whether or not he deserves a spot in your social circle should be thought through before you let him back into your life.
The Reasons Behind the Break Up
Take some time to reflect on a moment in the past when he broke your heart. Do you remember yourself crying on a friend's shoulder or drinking the night away with friends in order to forget about the way he hurt you or made you cry? Are you prepared to repeat such a process if his scheming ways strike again?
Heartbreak can be encountered in any relationship. However, giving a guy another chance once he has already broken your heart can be an extremely regrettable judgment call. An important question to ask yourself is why you would want to be with him if he doesn't want to be with you. Unless you are able to communicate what went wrong previously and how you can make things better, conflict will be an inevitable and unavoidable matter.
Look at all Sides
Examining all these factors is important before determining whether or not he deserves a second chance. The answer might be quite clear even though you refuse to admit it to yourself. You might find yourself searching for reasons to let him crawl back into your life, but make sure you remember how you were treated previously and ask yourself if it is what you really want in a relationship.
Figuring out whether or not there is a spot for him in your future is ultimately your own personal decision.
Happiness matters most
Sometimes women fall back into relationships because they are used to a certain routine of being with a man, or simply don't want to feel lonely. But revisiting a painful past while realizing you could be exploring new options will just cause an elevated level of emotional anxiety.
Feeling happy with yourself is the most important and if getting back together with your ex-boyfriend will prohibit this from happening, then it is time to move on.
THINGS THAT KILL A LOVING RELATIONSHIP
Not Listening
Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.
When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.
Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.
Excess Baggage
Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.
Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.
Commitment Problems
With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.
In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.
Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.
Family Matters
The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.
Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.
Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.
Being a Workaholic
In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.
Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.
To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.
YOU DON’T NEED THEM
If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.
Communication is the crux of all relationships, and if the communication is not strong then your relationship will not be. Not only is talking about your feelings important, but listening is also vital.
When your mate is unleashing his or her emotions on you, make it evident that you are taking what he or she says into consideration. Do this by showing a sincere interest in things you know are important to him or her, regardless if it is a minor thing or a major thing.
Also, if your significant other notifies you of an aspect of your personality or behavior that he or she dislikes that is within reason, try your hardest to prevent yourself from doing such things in the future. Although you may not completely eliminate that annoying habit, the effort that you show will be enough to satisfy that person.
Excess Baggage
Everyone has baggage; however, the key is dealing with that baggage and not allowing it to influence your relationship.
Everyone goes through obstacles throughout their day that cause stress. However, by no means should you tell your mate every time you are upset. With that said, do tell the person when something major happens to you-not when you've been plagued with something as minor as a paper cut. Nobody likes to be burdened with other people's downfalls on a constant basis because they are dealing with their own misfortunes as well.
Commitment Problems
With time, a certain comfort level is reached in a relationship. When this happens, a relationship becomes serious, or in other words, committed. For some, the word "committed" entails labels and obligations.
In order to be in a committed relationship, you must be mature and realize that it will take hard work and dedication to maintain. Make sure that your mate knows where he or she stands with you at all times. This is achieved through actions. Show your mate how much he or she means to you by writing a sentimental poem or by literally telling that person.
Commitment is scary for many because it serves as the end to just being you and the beginning for you being two. So if you are in fact serious about your mate, do not force him or her into a commitment; rather, let things ease into that stage. Do this first by taking the relationship day to day, and then as things progress, subtly slip hints that you are beginning to think about your future together.
Family Matters
The family – you have to love them even though most times it would be easier to throw pixie dust on them and wish they would vanish off to Never land. However, the reality is that you must make sure you are on your best behavior in front of them if you want a serious long-lasting relationship with your mate.
Keep in mind that you must think of this task as a job. You can make a great first impression, but the staying power of that impression is what counts. Make sure the family feels that you are not only getting to know them for your mate, but that you are also getting to know them because you actually like them as people. With that said, invite them to join you in activities that do not include your mate such as shopping.
Also, make sure you exercise great mannerisms. This means always cleaning the table after a meal without being asked and always offering to help in chores around the house. Not only must you go that extra mile, but you also must make sure you impress while doing so. This means always bringing a dish of the family's favorite food each time you come over, or calling the person's mom when at the supermarket to see if she needs anything.
Being a Workaholic
In this day and age, the height of success is a long and rough road to travel. In your voyage to riches, you may unintentionally neglect your special someone.
Your mate can only be so supportive. Remember a long-lasting relationship is as fulfilling as a successful career. As a career entails obstacles and levels to reach the top, so do relationships. However, this does not mean to place your relationship over your career, but rather balance the two.
To maintain this juggling act, you should try to invite your mate to work gatherings and keep him or her updated on the events in your career. This way they will feel connected to that aspect of your life and will be more understanding if you sometimes decide to choose work over them.
YOU DON’T NEED THEM
If your mate still ends up breaking up with you even after all of this, do not waste your time being upset; rather, be relieved with the reassurance that you can do much better.
Friday, July 25, 2008
falling out of love..
When the passion fades away from a relationship some people mistakenly think that they have fell out of love and this happens because of the false ideas that the media fed those people with about love. Healthy relationships are the ones who move on from the passionate stage to the compassionate stage where the main pillars holding the relationship becomes intimacy and respect instead of passion.
If you feel that you are falling out of love because of the loss of passion then you must educate yourself about the truth of healthy relationships instead of comparing what is happening to you to a romantic movie you saw.
Why do people Fall out of love
Sometimes people do fall out of love without knowing the reason then end up feeling guilty for the one they have to dump. Falling out of love can happen because of many reasons but most of them can be grouped under those two categories:
Change in your subconscious criteria:
As I mentioned before, people fall in love with those who meet the list called the unconscious criteria which is stored in their subconscious minds. This unconscious criteria is not a permanent criteria but it can change with major life events. Suppose that a girl didn't value honesty and that she loved a man who wasn't honest. If one day this girl faced a major problem that caused her serious troubles because of the lack of honesty of someone she dealt with then most probably her subconscious criteria will be updated to include honesty, and the result will be falling out of love because her man no longer matches her criteria.
Discovering something new about the person you love:
What if the same girl who values honesty didn't knew that her man wasn't honest and then one day she discovered it by coincidence. If honesty wasn't that important to her nothing could happen but if she values honesty then most probably she will fall out of love.
Again I am repeating the same advice, don't associate the loss of passion with falling out of love but just try to have more understanding of healthy relationships so that you can know whether you are truly falling out of love or not.
If you feel that you are falling out of love because of the loss of passion then you must educate yourself about the truth of healthy relationships instead of comparing what is happening to you to a romantic movie you saw.
Why do people Fall out of love
Sometimes people do fall out of love without knowing the reason then end up feeling guilty for the one they have to dump. Falling out of love can happen because of many reasons but most of them can be grouped under those two categories:
Change in your subconscious criteria:
As I mentioned before, people fall in love with those who meet the list called the unconscious criteria which is stored in their subconscious minds. This unconscious criteria is not a permanent criteria but it can change with major life events. Suppose that a girl didn't value honesty and that she loved a man who wasn't honest. If one day this girl faced a major problem that caused her serious troubles because of the lack of honesty of someone she dealt with then most probably her subconscious criteria will be updated to include honesty, and the result will be falling out of love because her man no longer matches her criteria.
Discovering something new about the person you love:
What if the same girl who values honesty didn't knew that her man wasn't honest and then one day she discovered it by coincidence. If honesty wasn't that important to her nothing could happen but if she values honesty then most probably she will fall out of love.
Again I am repeating the same advice, don't associate the loss of passion with falling out of love but just try to have more understanding of healthy relationships so that you can know whether you are truly falling out of love or not.
5 ways to know if he really loves you, before you fall too deep
When a Woman becomes seriously involved with a Man you can be certain that one of the first questions you ask yourself is does he love me. This is a very important question because if you are planning on taking this relationship to another level or perhaps you have started thinking about marriage. Here are a few things to consider while trying to figure out how he feels.
1. A Man who really loves a Woman is proud to be with her and can't wait to show her off to friends and family. If he is not taking you to places were you come in contact with those most close to him it could be time to wonder if he is right for you.
2. A man really loves you when he takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do. It is easy for him when you do the things he likes to do, but remember that even though he is romantic and likes to have sex with you does not mean he loves you.
3. Gifts don't always mean he loves you, just because he purchases something expensive doesn't always mean he loves you. He may just have a lot of money to spend and it is those things that are free and have deep sentimental value that show you how much he loves you.
4. When he tells you he loves you can be a clue to if he really loves you. If he says he loves you only after you say it first you may need to be suspect. If he tells you this before you get into bed to make love you may want to question his motive. Sometimes we know if a man really loves us by how he says it and were he says it., generally you will know when he is sincere.
5. Does he see a future with you because if he really loves you he will want to spend the rest of his life with you. He should be talking about having a future with you and possible be talking about marriage. If he doesn't he may be looking at your relationship as just temporary.
After reading this article and you are still wondering if that special guy is in love with you then I think it is time for you to start looking somewhere else before you fall for him and may get hurt.
1. A Man who really loves a Woman is proud to be with her and can't wait to show her off to friends and family. If he is not taking you to places were you come in contact with those most close to him it could be time to wonder if he is right for you.
2. A man really loves you when he takes the time to be with you and to do the things you love to do. It is easy for him when you do the things he likes to do, but remember that even though he is romantic and likes to have sex with you does not mean he loves you.
3. Gifts don't always mean he loves you, just because he purchases something expensive doesn't always mean he loves you. He may just have a lot of money to spend and it is those things that are free and have deep sentimental value that show you how much he loves you.
4. When he tells you he loves you can be a clue to if he really loves you. If he says he loves you only after you say it first you may need to be suspect. If he tells you this before you get into bed to make love you may want to question his motive. Sometimes we know if a man really loves us by how he says it and were he says it., generally you will know when he is sincere.
5. Does he see a future with you because if he really loves you he will want to spend the rest of his life with you. He should be talking about having a future with you and possible be talking about marriage. If he doesn't he may be looking at your relationship as just temporary.
After reading this article and you are still wondering if that special guy is in love with you then I think it is time for you to start looking somewhere else before you fall for him and may get hurt.
Tips To Make Your Partner Love You Today And Every Day
Being in love is bliss. Every one of you here would wish to throw yourself into it. Just envisage the butterflies in your stomach when you fall in love with someone for the first time, and how much you do not want that moment to end.
That hypothetically marks the beginning of a powerful bond being created by two people who have been head over heels for each other. Unfortunately…that may not sum up the relationship you wish to get yourselves into.
And that sparkling jiffy does not affirm the everlasting love that it should be…So here is the question of the day, “How can I make my relationship stay intact forever?”
The primary hurdle in a relationship is the inborn difference between a man and a woman. Well, as the saying goes, one man’s meat is another man’s poison. What a man likes may not be well liked by the woman, and vice versa. So the key to winning each other’s heart at all times…is by understanding the needs and wants of the opposite sex.
Here are some tips for both the men and the women to take note:
1. It is alright for a man to be short-tempered, but only if there is a valid reason to back that up, such as if you have found out that your girlfriend is evidently betraying you. Sometimes a man likes to make the girlfriend the ‘punching bag’ after a bad day. Still, try to grip hold of yourself. You can always talk it out, and rest assured, she would give you her listening ear.
2. A woman can get so carried away by her emotions that she may flout the fact that the man needs to be emotionally comforted too. So if you know that he is facing a calamity and needs to be heard, try to set aside your problems first and help him out. You must take into account that his problem may be bigger than yours, and that these problems may turn him into someone you do not wish to see. So give him some space. And then when he feels a little bit better, you are all set to tell yours to him.
3. A woman would never ask for anything more than just love, attention and empathy. So to the man, try to look at these aspects as something that is not such a big burden to carry. After all, they do not cost you money. All you need to do is just spend a little time making her smile.
4. This is especially a great idea for the woman. Cook something! Because your cooking can make the relationship go a long way. After all, the key to his heart is by filling his empty stomach.
5. The woman should put a smile on the face. A woman’s smile can bring peace to the heart and mind. And if the man gets to see it, it would brighten up his darker moments.
6. With the presence of technology, there is not much of an excuse for you not to make a call or send a text message. Set aside just a few seconds or minutes off your busy time, and that would make his or her day and night complete.
7. When one turns into fire, the other should be the water to put the fire out. Yes! That is so vital, and would be pleasing to each other.
8. Come what may, just stick with each other. Both of you will feel lucky to have each other and make you just want to be with each other for life.
Now those are what it takes to keep the relationship rolling! To all couples, may your love life stay strong and blissful till the end of time!
That hypothetically marks the beginning of a powerful bond being created by two people who have been head over heels for each other. Unfortunately…that may not sum up the relationship you wish to get yourselves into.
And that sparkling jiffy does not affirm the everlasting love that it should be…So here is the question of the day, “How can I make my relationship stay intact forever?”
The primary hurdle in a relationship is the inborn difference between a man and a woman. Well, as the saying goes, one man’s meat is another man’s poison. What a man likes may not be well liked by the woman, and vice versa. So the key to winning each other’s heart at all times…is by understanding the needs and wants of the opposite sex.
Here are some tips for both the men and the women to take note:
1. It is alright for a man to be short-tempered, but only if there is a valid reason to back that up, such as if you have found out that your girlfriend is evidently betraying you. Sometimes a man likes to make the girlfriend the ‘punching bag’ after a bad day. Still, try to grip hold of yourself. You can always talk it out, and rest assured, she would give you her listening ear.
2. A woman can get so carried away by her emotions that she may flout the fact that the man needs to be emotionally comforted too. So if you know that he is facing a calamity and needs to be heard, try to set aside your problems first and help him out. You must take into account that his problem may be bigger than yours, and that these problems may turn him into someone you do not wish to see. So give him some space. And then when he feels a little bit better, you are all set to tell yours to him.
3. A woman would never ask for anything more than just love, attention and empathy. So to the man, try to look at these aspects as something that is not such a big burden to carry. After all, they do not cost you money. All you need to do is just spend a little time making her smile.
4. This is especially a great idea for the woman. Cook something! Because your cooking can make the relationship go a long way. After all, the key to his heart is by filling his empty stomach.
5. The woman should put a smile on the face. A woman’s smile can bring peace to the heart and mind. And if the man gets to see it, it would brighten up his darker moments.
6. With the presence of technology, there is not much of an excuse for you not to make a call or send a text message. Set aside just a few seconds or minutes off your busy time, and that would make his or her day and night complete.
7. When one turns into fire, the other should be the water to put the fire out. Yes! That is so vital, and would be pleasing to each other.
8. Come what may, just stick with each other. Both of you will feel lucky to have each other and make you just want to be with each other for life.
Now those are what it takes to keep the relationship rolling! To all couples, may your love life stay strong and blissful till the end of time!
what turns women on...
What thing do usually turn a woman on? There’s a well-known list of such things like beautiful body, low sexual voice, strong arms and etc. But there are some not ordinary things about men that turn women on. So what are those singularities that get some women excited and the other women surprised that the first are excited?
Do you like man’s first name or surname? You think that it sounds so magically beautiful that the one who bears it can’t be an ordinary man, and everything he does is supposed to be fantastic.
He’s got a foreign name, an aristocratic surname or something and you have just a name or just a surname probably the same with thousands of other people. Probably you expect that this man will get you attached to something that you’ve been always deprived of. Well in the most cases is not much better or worse than others by go on try it yourself to get sure.
Maybe you loose your head when you see some magical combination of figures in his phone, car or any other number?
These are exactly the figures you like, it must be a sign of destiny that he’s appeared on your life way. Probably you are a fan of numerology, you think that mathematics has no idea of the real importance of numbers and figures it operates with, probably they’re the signs of upper forces making living in this world a little less complicated. Well it’s up to you to believe but don’t close the eyes on the other but the numbers features of that guy.
Do you like his signature or hand writing? You aren’t the only one. The explanation of this singularity is rather simple. You are sure that the way he right tells a lot about his true character and that you can read that character in his signature. You may go and try to check up if any of your versions is true.
Does his foreign accent, profession, hobby or any exotics thing he keeps, likes and does? You are definitely a hunter for exotics. You are probably displeased with your own life and think it’s one of a kind, very ordinary and boring. He brings new emotions and impressions into you life, he’s like a breath of a fresh air to you.
That’s very understandable but be careful with the crocodile he keeps in his bathroom.
Do you like the defects of his speech or his bandaged arm, leg or probably a broken nose? These are the mothers instincts speaking in you. You want to take care of him, you pity him.
Maybe it’s his glasses, earring, any other piercing or accessories that really turn you on? You start feeling hot at the moment the things a man with the pierces nipple can do in bed. Well this is a kind of fetishism but for you it’s so really exciting. Probably your either like all the romantic attributes of sex like candelas and aromatic oil, cream and strawberries, playing role games.
Or do you like that he’s left-handed or the shape of his ears or hands? Maybe that’s just a type of man you prefer, you are very original in the criterions of your choice but that your right – some women can’t resist blue-eyed blondes and that’s considered normal. Maybe you think that all the left-handed people are outstanding people and nothing turns you on more than the thought of how talented that man is. Maybe you had some man with the same shape of ears before and only following the signals of your past at the present moment. It’s only you who can tell for sure.
Do you like the way he’s doing hard physical work or on the opposite maybe you like that he looks and smells like candy? It’s normal for all women to get excited from the men who look masculine, and that’s how he looks when she chops and saws firewood for example. A candy-man is a type of a feminine man and very possible a gay-men. Or maybe he just a metrosexual that looks after himself. Then a woman should decide if a man who spends on the cosmetics even more money than she does is so attractive for her.
One more case is when you like a man doing housework. Of course it’s not a apron on him that is so exiting for you but the care and love you see in this will to help.
Summing it all up one could say that some things about men that turn some women up are really singular and a little bit freaky, others are quite understandable, but all those of them can be called right in case they make a woman feel happy and satisfied.
Do you like man’s first name or surname? You think that it sounds so magically beautiful that the one who bears it can’t be an ordinary man, and everything he does is supposed to be fantastic.
He’s got a foreign name, an aristocratic surname or something and you have just a name or just a surname probably the same with thousands of other people. Probably you expect that this man will get you attached to something that you’ve been always deprived of. Well in the most cases is not much better or worse than others by go on try it yourself to get sure.
Maybe you loose your head when you see some magical combination of figures in his phone, car or any other number?
These are exactly the figures you like, it must be a sign of destiny that he’s appeared on your life way. Probably you are a fan of numerology, you think that mathematics has no idea of the real importance of numbers and figures it operates with, probably they’re the signs of upper forces making living in this world a little less complicated. Well it’s up to you to believe but don’t close the eyes on the other but the numbers features of that guy.
Do you like his signature or hand writing? You aren’t the only one. The explanation of this singularity is rather simple. You are sure that the way he right tells a lot about his true character and that you can read that character in his signature. You may go and try to check up if any of your versions is true.
Does his foreign accent, profession, hobby or any exotics thing he keeps, likes and does? You are definitely a hunter for exotics. You are probably displeased with your own life and think it’s one of a kind, very ordinary and boring. He brings new emotions and impressions into you life, he’s like a breath of a fresh air to you.
That’s very understandable but be careful with the crocodile he keeps in his bathroom.
Do you like the defects of his speech or his bandaged arm, leg or probably a broken nose? These are the mothers instincts speaking in you. You want to take care of him, you pity him.
Maybe it’s his glasses, earring, any other piercing or accessories that really turn you on? You start feeling hot at the moment the things a man with the pierces nipple can do in bed. Well this is a kind of fetishism but for you it’s so really exciting. Probably your either like all the romantic attributes of sex like candelas and aromatic oil, cream and strawberries, playing role games.
Or do you like that he’s left-handed or the shape of his ears or hands? Maybe that’s just a type of man you prefer, you are very original in the criterions of your choice but that your right – some women can’t resist blue-eyed blondes and that’s considered normal. Maybe you think that all the left-handed people are outstanding people and nothing turns you on more than the thought of how talented that man is. Maybe you had some man with the same shape of ears before and only following the signals of your past at the present moment. It’s only you who can tell for sure.
Do you like the way he’s doing hard physical work or on the opposite maybe you like that he looks and smells like candy? It’s normal for all women to get excited from the men who look masculine, and that’s how he looks when she chops and saws firewood for example. A candy-man is a type of a feminine man and very possible a gay-men. Or maybe he just a metrosexual that looks after himself. Then a woman should decide if a man who spends on the cosmetics even more money than she does is so attractive for her.
One more case is when you like a man doing housework. Of course it’s not a apron on him that is so exiting for you but the care and love you see in this will to help.
Summing it all up one could say that some things about men that turn some women up are really singular and a little bit freaky, others are quite understandable, but all those of them can be called right in case they make a woman feel happy and satisfied.
Men & Women: differences
Have you ever heard a seemingly normal woman saying something like, "I don't know what I do to turn men off. I seem to push them away. Maybe I'm too demanding, or not demanding enough. Men are so confusing."
And it could be that very same day that you hear a seemingly normal man, unrelated to the first woman, complaining: ‘I don't get women. I must be doing something wrong. Women are so hard to understand."
When men and women get together, there are, in effect, two worlds—his and hers. They have different values, priorities, and habits. They play by different rules.
Scientists have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between men and women are biological. It turns out that men's and women's brains, for example, are not only different, but the way we use them differs too. Women have larger connections and more frequent interaction between their brain's left and right hemispheres. This accounts for women's ability to have better verbal skills and intuition. Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet Robert Bly describes women's brains as a "superhighway" of connection while men’s brains connections are compared to a "little crookedy country road.'"
Different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the process of evolution. Although life conditions have changed, both men and women tend to follow their biological programs.
Men tend to retain a firm sense of direction – they need to trace the game, catch it, and find the way home, while women have a better peripheral vision that helps them to see what’s happening around the house, to spot an approaching danger, to notice changes in the children’s behavior and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunting, which explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to decipher a wider range of information
When entering a room, men look for exits, estimating a possible threat, and ways of escape, while women pay attention to the guests’ faces to find out who they are and how they feel. Men are able to sort out information and archive it in their head. Women tend to ‘rewind’ the information over and over again. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to talk it over. When a woman shares her problems with a man, she is not looking for solutions – she needs someone to listen to her.
Men prefer strident noises, hard handshakes, and red color. They are better at solving technical problems. Women have a sharper ear, they use more words while talking, and are better at completing tasks independently.
Based on these biologically explained differences, some psychological distinctions between men and women can be established:
- Men grasp a situation as a whole and think globally, while women think locally, relying on details and nuances.
- Men are builders and creators. They take risks and experiment, while women select the most valuable knowledge and pass it over to the next generation.
- Men are more independent in their thoughts and actions, while women are more willing to follow the ideas suggested by others.
- Women’s self-appraisal is lower than that of men. Women tend to criticize themselves, while men are more satisfied with their own performance.
- Men and women have different sources of satisfaction. For men it’s career and prosperity, while women value family and kids.
- Men have a pronounced need to fulfill their goals, and women rank relationships with others first.
- Men get sick twice as often as women, although women tend to be more concerned about their health.
- Women endure pain and monotonous work better than men.
All the above gets even more confusing, if we take into account that 15 to 20% of men happen to have a female type of brains, and about 10% of women have a male type of brains, which means that some percentage of men and women, no matter how small it seems, are partially programmed to the behavior and way of thinking of the opposite gender.
"Okay, I understand the problem", you are saying to yourself, but -"what's the solution"? That depends on whether you are a woman or a man.
And it could be that very same day that you hear a seemingly normal man, unrelated to the first woman, complaining: ‘I don't get women. I must be doing something wrong. Women are so hard to understand."
When men and women get together, there are, in effect, two worlds—his and hers. They have different values, priorities, and habits. They play by different rules.
Scientists have come to accept that a few fundamental differences between men and women are biological. It turns out that men's and women's brains, for example, are not only different, but the way we use them differs too. Women have larger connections and more frequent interaction between their brain's left and right hemispheres. This accounts for women's ability to have better verbal skills and intuition. Men, on the other hand, have greater brain hemisphere separation, which explains their skills for abstract reasoning and visual-spatial intelligence. Poet Robert Bly describes women's brains as a "superhighway" of connection while men’s brains connections are compared to a "little crookedy country road.'"
Different habits of men and women are explained by different roles in the process of evolution. Although life conditions have changed, both men and women tend to follow their biological programs.
Men tend to retain a firm sense of direction – they need to trace the game, catch it, and find the way home, while women have a better peripheral vision that helps them to see what’s happening around the house, to spot an approaching danger, to notice changes in the children’s behavior and appearance. Men’s brains are programmed to hunting, which explains their narrow range of vision, while women’s brains are able to decipher a wider range of information
When entering a room, men look for exits, estimating a possible threat, and ways of escape, while women pay attention to the guests’ faces to find out who they are and how they feel. Men are able to sort out information and archive it in their head. Women tend to ‘rewind’ the information over and over again. The only way to stop thinking of the problems is to talk it over. When a woman shares her problems with a man, she is not looking for solutions – she needs someone to listen to her.
Men prefer strident noises, hard handshakes, and red color. They are better at solving technical problems. Women have a sharper ear, they use more words while talking, and are better at completing tasks independently.
Based on these biologically explained differences, some psychological distinctions between men and women can be established:
- Men grasp a situation as a whole and think globally, while women think locally, relying on details and nuances.
- Men are builders and creators. They take risks and experiment, while women select the most valuable knowledge and pass it over to the next generation.
- Men are more independent in their thoughts and actions, while women are more willing to follow the ideas suggested by others.
- Women’s self-appraisal is lower than that of men. Women tend to criticize themselves, while men are more satisfied with their own performance.
- Men and women have different sources of satisfaction. For men it’s career and prosperity, while women value family and kids.
- Men have a pronounced need to fulfill their goals, and women rank relationships with others first.
- Men get sick twice as often as women, although women tend to be more concerned about their health.
- Women endure pain and monotonous work better than men.
All the above gets even more confusing, if we take into account that 15 to 20% of men happen to have a female type of brains, and about 10% of women have a male type of brains, which means that some percentage of men and women, no matter how small it seems, are partially programmed to the behavior and way of thinking of the opposite gender.
"Okay, I understand the problem", you are saying to yourself, but -"what's the solution"? That depends on whether you are a woman or a man.
Men & women: similarities
From the day a person is born, gender is an easy way to categorize people. When you are a member of one group, it's easy to spot differences rather than similarities in members of the other group. However, men and women share more similarities than one might think. Let’s look at some of them.
- Both men and women are self-centered and selfish. Both sides are taking their narrow views on the issue; so don’t waste your time, trying to change your partner by imposing your values and opinions. We all want the other side to be cooperative, living up to our standards and expectations. However, both sides are rebellious, vindictive, and egocentric; therefore, neither side ever yields.
- Both men and women may be willing to sacrifice their interests or values to please the second half at the beginning of dating; but eventually, as a relationship develops further, they will start protecting themselves, and become selfish again. Both sides are forced to be stubborn by others' criticism to sustain their dignity and principles.
- Both sides will start a fight. Either side will lose temper, if the other side keeps on adding fuel to the fire. Usually the male side is held responsible, because men are hitting a lot harder than women.
- Deep inside everyone is looking for love. Even the most vicious killer Adolph Hitler could not resist women’s love. Both sides need proper care, getting support, help or encouragement when we are sick, feeling low, or make mistakes. Also, female needs more company and attention to her inside feeling, and male needs care about his outside habits, like cleaning up.
- Both sides need appreciation from the others. Recognition is directly linked to our sense of value, attitude, and zest for life.
- Men like to compare women, and women like to compare men. Men rate women by their appearance; women rank men by their wealth, looks, and vehicles they drive.
- Both men and women have biological cycles. On certain days of the month women tend to be more emotional. The reason is an excessive amount of liquid in their bodies and brains during PMS. Although men don’t have periods, their moods and energy levels are also cyclic. If you know your partner long enough, you will learn to recognize the signals of such cycles and cope with them.
- Both sides are willing to give advice, even if no one is asking their opinion. Usually the more knowledgeable side will give advice more actively, and if both sides think they are more informed, the arguments will be endless.
- Both sides are jealous. Deep inside men and women are exactly the same in jealousy, but usually male can hide it better than females.
- Both sides will have casual affairs. Times when women had to go to jail, or be drown in a pig cage for love affairs have gone, so why not?
- Both male and female are suspicious. The only difference is female have higher alertness, they will carefully observe the slightest change in the man’s behaviour, while men will usually disregard or take them longer to aware from female.
- Both sides have trouble being dependable. Simply because we usually make promises on the spur of the moment, without considering thoroughly about whether we have enough abilities and patience to keep them. Usually men are forced to make more promises than women.
- Both sides are denying responsibilities, especially when it comes to dealing with their children. Our rebellious spirit will not accept any blame for not taking good care of the children; we will strike back with the same accusations.
- Both men and women are self-centered and selfish. Both sides are taking their narrow views on the issue; so don’t waste your time, trying to change your partner by imposing your values and opinions. We all want the other side to be cooperative, living up to our standards and expectations. However, both sides are rebellious, vindictive, and egocentric; therefore, neither side ever yields.
- Both men and women may be willing to sacrifice their interests or values to please the second half at the beginning of dating; but eventually, as a relationship develops further, they will start protecting themselves, and become selfish again. Both sides are forced to be stubborn by others' criticism to sustain their dignity and principles.
- Both sides will start a fight. Either side will lose temper, if the other side keeps on adding fuel to the fire. Usually the male side is held responsible, because men are hitting a lot harder than women.
- Deep inside everyone is looking for love. Even the most vicious killer Adolph Hitler could not resist women’s love. Both sides need proper care, getting support, help or encouragement when we are sick, feeling low, or make mistakes. Also, female needs more company and attention to her inside feeling, and male needs care about his outside habits, like cleaning up.
- Both sides need appreciation from the others. Recognition is directly linked to our sense of value, attitude, and zest for life.
- Men like to compare women, and women like to compare men. Men rate women by their appearance; women rank men by their wealth, looks, and vehicles they drive.
- Both men and women have biological cycles. On certain days of the month women tend to be more emotional. The reason is an excessive amount of liquid in their bodies and brains during PMS. Although men don’t have periods, their moods and energy levels are also cyclic. If you know your partner long enough, you will learn to recognize the signals of such cycles and cope with them.
- Both sides are willing to give advice, even if no one is asking their opinion. Usually the more knowledgeable side will give advice more actively, and if both sides think they are more informed, the arguments will be endless.
- Both sides are jealous. Deep inside men and women are exactly the same in jealousy, but usually male can hide it better than females.
- Both sides will have casual affairs. Times when women had to go to jail, or be drown in a pig cage for love affairs have gone, so why not?
- Both male and female are suspicious. The only difference is female have higher alertness, they will carefully observe the slightest change in the man’s behaviour, while men will usually disregard or take them longer to aware from female.
- Both sides have trouble being dependable. Simply because we usually make promises on the spur of the moment, without considering thoroughly about whether we have enough abilities and patience to keep them. Usually men are forced to make more promises than women.
- Both sides are denying responsibilities, especially when it comes to dealing with their children. Our rebellious spirit will not accept any blame for not taking good care of the children; we will strike back with the same accusations.
breaking up
You don’t love him any more, he doesn’t love you any more, you spent some really good time together, before you maybe were thinking that it was going to last forever but now you clearly see that you have no future, you don’t even quite understand why do you still together. Maybe you don’t have enough strength to leave but the time to part has definitely come. Don’t wait to be dumped – you know that it’s not what you want. Still you can go away in a civilized way, without the less bad memories as it’s possible.
First of all you should get sure that the time has come. Try to imagine yourself without him – don’t you feel that fresh breeze of freedom. It always better to be alone than unhappy. Probably you think you won’t be able to live without him. It’s only how it seems.
Once you lived without him – that means you are quite able to cope with it once more. Don’t miss a good thing till it’s gone, is that what you are afraid of? But is the thing so really good if it causes so much hurt and depression.
So you’ve finally decided. Try to act a good girl the last days together, although it can be hard. It’s only better for you – later you will remember that you’ve done everything right and that it was he screaming and making scandals and you were so nice and calm. You can be sure that after it’s over he will remember that nice you and only regret about all.
Be nice even the very moment you leave. Yes, you may want to blame him and tell him all the reason why you are leaving and probably you would like him to see that it’s only his fault, but you both have heard it all before and there’s no need to repeat. This time you only mission is to go, the time for the loud performances is over, you should just leave quietly leave.
It’s not easy to close the door behind you so don’t make it even more harder – don’t push yourself. You should wait for the right moment, when you will clearly see that “yes, this is it”. All those “now or never” aren’t necessary, do it when it will be the most comfortable for you. Also don’t tell him that you are going to leave, that may cause one more unpleasant scene or probably he will try to stop you, conceive that nothing is over, that you both still have a chance. Maybe that’s just what you want to hear but it’s only for a while. You can even do a little cheating – tell him that you are leaving for a while, say that your friend asked you to water her plants and feed her fish while she’s out on the vacations.
If it is difficult for you to accept at once the though that you’ve parted forever – you may tell yourself that it is only for a while, till the situation gets clearer. Later on you will understand what you really need or maybe you will get used to living alone and won’t be so scared of it anymore.
You’d better pack your bags and move while he’s not at home, but for example on a business trip or simply at work. It will be an unpleasant surprise for him to come home and find you’re gone, but this how it will be easier for you. Probably it seems that there so much your stuff at his place that it’s impossible to remove it all at once. If you don’t really want to prolong this doubtful pleasure you will surely manage. Ask a friend with a car – if you don’t have one – to help you, or land some transport. You should try not to leave any of your stuff at his place in order not to have a reason or a temptation to come and see him.
It’s important not to communicate with each other for a while, until you make sure that you’ve finally got rid of all emotions god and bad. You should try to fight the will to call him to ask “how’s it going?’. Talk to your friends and they will tell you how your relationships have been looking recently, you may be surprised or even shocked but that will help you not to feel pity about them.
After you’ve left you have all rights to start a new life. You should go out more, seek for the new acquaintances, meet with you good old friends more, hang out together, finally pay some attentions to how your job is going, visit new places, find new hobbies and activities, go on a vacations, spend more money on yourself and yours entertainment. You should remember that the end of one story is usually a beginning of an other.
First of all you should get sure that the time has come. Try to imagine yourself without him – don’t you feel that fresh breeze of freedom. It always better to be alone than unhappy. Probably you think you won’t be able to live without him. It’s only how it seems.
Once you lived without him – that means you are quite able to cope with it once more. Don’t miss a good thing till it’s gone, is that what you are afraid of? But is the thing so really good if it causes so much hurt and depression.
So you’ve finally decided. Try to act a good girl the last days together, although it can be hard. It’s only better for you – later you will remember that you’ve done everything right and that it was he screaming and making scandals and you were so nice and calm. You can be sure that after it’s over he will remember that nice you and only regret about all.
Be nice even the very moment you leave. Yes, you may want to blame him and tell him all the reason why you are leaving and probably you would like him to see that it’s only his fault, but you both have heard it all before and there’s no need to repeat. This time you only mission is to go, the time for the loud performances is over, you should just leave quietly leave.
It’s not easy to close the door behind you so don’t make it even more harder – don’t push yourself. You should wait for the right moment, when you will clearly see that “yes, this is it”. All those “now or never” aren’t necessary, do it when it will be the most comfortable for you. Also don’t tell him that you are going to leave, that may cause one more unpleasant scene or probably he will try to stop you, conceive that nothing is over, that you both still have a chance. Maybe that’s just what you want to hear but it’s only for a while. You can even do a little cheating – tell him that you are leaving for a while, say that your friend asked you to water her plants and feed her fish while she’s out on the vacations.
If it is difficult for you to accept at once the though that you’ve parted forever – you may tell yourself that it is only for a while, till the situation gets clearer. Later on you will understand what you really need or maybe you will get used to living alone and won’t be so scared of it anymore.
You’d better pack your bags and move while he’s not at home, but for example on a business trip or simply at work. It will be an unpleasant surprise for him to come home and find you’re gone, but this how it will be easier for you. Probably it seems that there so much your stuff at his place that it’s impossible to remove it all at once. If you don’t really want to prolong this doubtful pleasure you will surely manage. Ask a friend with a car – if you don’t have one – to help you, or land some transport. You should try not to leave any of your stuff at his place in order not to have a reason or a temptation to come and see him.
It’s important not to communicate with each other for a while, until you make sure that you’ve finally got rid of all emotions god and bad. You should try to fight the will to call him to ask “how’s it going?’. Talk to your friends and they will tell you how your relationships have been looking recently, you may be surprised or even shocked but that will help you not to feel pity about them.
After you’ve left you have all rights to start a new life. You should go out more, seek for the new acquaintances, meet with you good old friends more, hang out together, finally pay some attentions to how your job is going, visit new places, find new hobbies and activities, go on a vacations, spend more money on yourself and yours entertainment. You should remember that the end of one story is usually a beginning of an other.
time to break up...
In ideal world people, who love each other, either long for being together, or they don’t – anyway, they experience the same feelings. Should one grow cold towards his/her partner, or become enamoured of him/her, another one should manage to catch and to understand this. But if one meets stumbling-blocks in coexistence with a partner, that means he/she just keeps off conversations about ending a relationship and ignores break up signs. Being blind in love relationship, people often lose their ability to feel the real threat. Actually, there are several reasons for making haste to discreet relationship break up:
1. Verbal signs or 10 main phrases one would never like to had slipped from dearly-beloved lips:
- We need to talk seriously;
- You are like a sister/brother for me;
- I don’t love you any more;
- It’s not your fault. I’m the one to blame;
- I think we would better be friends;
- Do you remember when I’ve said everything is all right? I’ve lied.
- Do you really want to know why I go out to dinner with my assistant?
- You’ve never made me hot;
- Have you always been such a bore?
- Give me back my keys.
These words hurt and make us lose the last hope. Moreover, they might be the certain signs of ending a relationship.
2. Have you ever asked yourself about the reason for keep on dating someone you don’t care at all? Appearance? Opportunity to make a career? No way. Remember that unhealthy and bad relationships result from the lack of respect. As one gives a damn for his/her partner, he/she gets into a jam. It would become a heavy burden and would finally lead to ending a relationship.
3. Unhealthy abusive relationship is one of the most forcible arguments to break up. A negative reaction to your partner’s presence, lasting uncomfortable feeling, violent quarrels, unwillingness to express one’s feelings and thoughts, lack of humor and sex drive, could be explained as an absolute relationship incompatibility. Should one feel unwell near his/her partner, ending a relationship would be a must.
4. Is it possible to save relationship when the love has gone? Definitely, it is not. There’s no sense to keep on moving together hand in hand, due to some features that suit one another. Sooner or later one would approach to ending a relationship, since living without love appears to be unbearable.
5. Disparateness in values and objectives of the partners lead up relationships into a blind alley. One has no good reason to make the date dance to his/her tune. Insisting on his/her doing a good turn to you, diverting a partner from his/her job and activities, being intrude in telephone calls and senseless talks, you push the lover to ending a relationship with you.
6. It is no wonder that our friends’ and family support helps to survive in the most tangled situations. When the lover becomes an obstacle between you and your relatives, stripping you of the contact with other people, he/she steals your complementary burst of energy and your independence. As a result, you changes into a lonesome wanderer, losing significance of existence. Nip it immediately in the bud even by means of ending a relationship at all! You are worth being truly loved.
1. Verbal signs or 10 main phrases one would never like to had slipped from dearly-beloved lips:
- We need to talk seriously;
- You are like a sister/brother for me;
- I don’t love you any more;
- It’s not your fault. I’m the one to blame;
- I think we would better be friends;
- Do you remember when I’ve said everything is all right? I’ve lied.
- Do you really want to know why I go out to dinner with my assistant?
- You’ve never made me hot;
- Have you always been such a bore?
- Give me back my keys.
These words hurt and make us lose the last hope. Moreover, they might be the certain signs of ending a relationship.
2. Have you ever asked yourself about the reason for keep on dating someone you don’t care at all? Appearance? Opportunity to make a career? No way. Remember that unhealthy and bad relationships result from the lack of respect. As one gives a damn for his/her partner, he/she gets into a jam. It would become a heavy burden and would finally lead to ending a relationship.
3. Unhealthy abusive relationship is one of the most forcible arguments to break up. A negative reaction to your partner’s presence, lasting uncomfortable feeling, violent quarrels, unwillingness to express one’s feelings and thoughts, lack of humor and sex drive, could be explained as an absolute relationship incompatibility. Should one feel unwell near his/her partner, ending a relationship would be a must.
4. Is it possible to save relationship when the love has gone? Definitely, it is not. There’s no sense to keep on moving together hand in hand, due to some features that suit one another. Sooner or later one would approach to ending a relationship, since living without love appears to be unbearable.
5. Disparateness in values and objectives of the partners lead up relationships into a blind alley. One has no good reason to make the date dance to his/her tune. Insisting on his/her doing a good turn to you, diverting a partner from his/her job and activities, being intrude in telephone calls and senseless talks, you push the lover to ending a relationship with you.
6. It is no wonder that our friends’ and family support helps to survive in the most tangled situations. When the lover becomes an obstacle between you and your relatives, stripping you of the contact with other people, he/she steals your complementary burst of energy and your independence. As a result, you changes into a lonesome wanderer, losing significance of existence. Nip it immediately in the bud even by means of ending a relationship at all! You are worth being truly loved.
18 Body Language Clues That Say He's Interested
Dating is hard, largely because meeting new people can be nerve-wracking. When you first meet a guy -- at a bar, a friend's house or even church -- the facts remain: You have to wonder what he's thinking and whether he really likes you. But did you know that -- whether they like it, know it or not -- men are pre-programmed to send out physical clues when they're interested in a woman? Read this excerpt of Superflirt by Tracey Cox and learn how to read any guy's body language with ease.
Legend has it that men make the first move, then plead, cajole, wine, dine and basically bribe (via chocolates, flowers and dinner dates) women into their bachelor pads to either a) have their wicked way or b) get down on bended knee. Women -- sweet, passive, delicate little flowers that we are -- start out strong by defying his attentions, until sheer persistence breaks down our resistance and we agree to...a sherry. Meanwhile, we fill our days by reading romance novels and peering from behind closed curtains, on the watch for knights on big white stallions.
What a load of crap. Women have always made the first move and orchestrated the pace, flow and direction of romantic relationships. Masters of intuition and emotional manipulation, adept at body language, able to gauge the emotional temperature of a room quicker than our nipples stiffen in a breeze, you can bet on it that if he's on his way over, armed with courage and a pickup line, you were the one who lured him.
Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they're interested. The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. Good news then, that the average female is usually very good at deciphering body language. Just in case you're not, I've included the obvious, along with signals that are more subtle, secretive and (occasionally) downright loony.
Read 18 can't-fail clues that a guy is interested >>
He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world -- to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you're interested.
His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens". The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death). Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It's an extension of preening and it's astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner.
He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.
He'll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases...
He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity (fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he's imagining his shoes under your bed.
He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects. Why? They remind him of your breasts: his body is "leaking" what's happening in his subconscious mind.
He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction
He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
He'll lend you his coat or sweater. Few guys would be happy to return from the bar to find their girlfriend's evening dress covered by another guy's jacket. Never mind if her teeth were chattering from life-threatening hypothermia. He wants it to be his jacket because it's a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says "what's mine is yours," something that's been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back). It smelled of him to begin with; it'll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to get it back.
Legend has it that men make the first move, then plead, cajole, wine, dine and basically bribe (via chocolates, flowers and dinner dates) women into their bachelor pads to either a) have their wicked way or b) get down on bended knee. Women -- sweet, passive, delicate little flowers that we are -- start out strong by defying his attentions, until sheer persistence breaks down our resistance and we agree to...a sherry. Meanwhile, we fill our days by reading romance novels and peering from behind closed curtains, on the watch for knights on big white stallions.
What a load of crap. Women have always made the first move and orchestrated the pace, flow and direction of romantic relationships. Masters of intuition and emotional manipulation, adept at body language, able to gauge the emotional temperature of a room quicker than our nipples stiffen in a breeze, you can bet on it that if he's on his way over, armed with courage and a pickup line, you were the one who lured him.
Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they're interested. The average man chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. Good news then, that the average female is usually very good at deciphering body language. Just in case you're not, I've included the obvious, along with signals that are more subtle, secretive and (occasionally) downright loony.
Read 18 can't-fail clues that a guy is interested >>
He'll serve you an eyebrow flash. When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If they like us back, they raise their eyebrows. The whole thing lasts about a fifth of a second and it happens everywhere in the world -- to everyone regardless of age, race, or class. Lifting our brows pulls the eyes open and allows more light to reflect off the surface, making them look bright, large and inviting. A flash might be easy to miss but they're so reliable, if you do spot one, you may know someone likes you before they've even registered it themselves. Deliberately extend it for up to one second and you've drastically upped the chances of him getting the message you're interested.
His lips part. If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when your eyes first lock.
His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens". The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole face a friendly "open" expression.
He'll try to attract your attention. For some men, this might mean a subtle tie adjustment along with a silent prayer that you'll notice the flash of movement. Others turn into Bippo the Clown and become so loud and boisterous, they're practically juggling and doing handstands. Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel. We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the female lip lick -- "I want to look good for you."
He'll smooth or mess up his hair. Which gestures he chooses depends on his hairstyle and what's going to make it look more flattering. Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time you trot off to the restroom and I bet his hands will be on their way to touching his hair.
His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking. A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating. Or completely nuts. Quite frankly, either are preferable to a man who looks at you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up. In the old days, men only dressed up on special occasions, and while the suit might have survived months in mothballs, the socks invariably continued to get worn (to death). Hence, why he spent half the night pulling them up, in an attempt to look the part. It's an extension of preening and it's astonishingly accurate. If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100 percent sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
Everything is erect. Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show his body off to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to show full attention and lean forward to get closer.
He'll let you see him checking out your body. Some experts call it "visual voyaging" -- his eyes take a little cruise around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The difference here is that he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering you as a sexual partner.
He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display. He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully, he still has his jeans or pants on at the time.
He'll stand with hands on hips. This accentuates his physical size and suggests body confidence. It's also a pointing gesture. We point with our hands at our own best sexual assets and also at the parts of our body where we'd most like to be touched. If he spends the night with his hands on his hips, fingers splayed and pointing downward, he's willing you to look, touch and admire the part he's proudest of. All subconscious, of course. Well, it is in most cases...
He'll play with the buttons on his jacket, buttoning and unbuttoning it. It's a displacement activity (fiddling) because you've made him a little nervous, plus an unconscious desire to remove his clothes. The next stage is to push the jacket open and hold it there by putting his hands on his hips. If he takes it off completely, he's imagining his shoes under your bed.
He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you. If he's interested, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous excitement, preening and autoerotic touching. When we're attracted to someone, our skin (most noticeably our lips and mouth) become increasingly sensitive to touch and other stimulation. If you smoke, you'll take more drags on your cigarette. If you're drinking, you'll take more sips. You start touching your own mouth more because your lips are ultra sensitive and it feels good. Plus, it plants the idea in the other person's mind that it could be a good idea to kiss you.
He'll start squeezing his glass or can or roll it from side to side, slightly squeezing it as he does so. When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects. Why? They remind him of your breasts: his body is "leaking" what's happening in his subconscious mind.
He'll perch on the edge of his seat to get closer. And if he crosses his legs, the top leg will point in your direction
He'll guide you by putting his arm on your elbow or in the small of your back. The arm guide isn't just good manners and a polite way of guiding you through a crowd; he's making sure he knows exactly where you're going by taking you there. He doesn't want to lose you! It also shows you're being "taken care of" so no other men need volunteer. Along with the arm guide, there'll be lots of accidentally-on-purpose touches.
He'll lend you his coat or sweater. Few guys would be happy to return from the bar to find their girlfriend's evening dress covered by another guy's jacket. Never mind if her teeth were chattering from life-threatening hypothermia. He wants it to be his jacket because it's a protective, sexy, ownership gesture. It says "what's mine is yours," something that's been close to their skin is now close to yours (and vice versa when you give it back). It smelled of him to begin with; it'll smell of you when you return it. Plus, it links you: he has to hang around to get it back.
the act of cheating
Do you remember the love stories your mother told you? They were so pure and endless… Do you remember your dreams about the Prince Charming, riding a white horse, don’t you? And now, what about your love affair?
You finally met somebody to love and to cherish. You dream about the wedding dress, making you a fairytale princess, exciting wonder and admiration of the bridegroom and all the guests, demonstrating your enviable chiselled figure.
Have you already thought your future life over? A country house, three or four lovely babies on the lawn near it? How to make your still-loving-and-hoping heart forget about it? You are absolutely crushed by the situation. What is to be done, if your Prince Charming is just cheating on you? Isn’t it better to be in blissful ignorance or to face the problem and tackle it? It’s up to you, but your aching heart is silent. Emotions, nothing but emotions.
But what made you sure, that you are cheated on (except the case, when you catch your cheating boyfriend/cheating girlfriend “on the scene of crime”)? They say, the most tormenting thing in cheating is suspicion.
What are the signs of cheating? Well, it depends. You have been knowing each other not for the first year, or you’re living together for a long time, you know all the habits and tastes of your partner, there’s already a lot of routine in the relationships, there’s no butterflies in the stomach, and you don’t even remember how it felt in the beginning. You’ve been feeling very comfortable, but suddenly you may find out that something doesn’t seem right or just different. In fact that’s the sign number one. So is he/she cheating on you?
Being too suspicious isn’t right either. But there’re some signs of a cheating partner that are quiet obvious. Yes, it’s the lipstick on the shirts, cheeks or anywhere else, smell of perfume, which is not yours, slim cigarettes or any other things forgotten in the car, whispering in the cell-phone talks, the unknown phone numbers or even addresses, notes, letters, e-mails, sms, extra-work, extra-miles, odd explanations of the absence or phone switched off, strange credit cart receipts, and on and on.
Are there any special signs of cheating? What makes us suspect? Less attention and time devoted to us? Or visa versa – as if your partner is redressing a wrong? More care about he/her himself/herself? New sexy underwear? Strange smell? Alien things? Have you noticed some coldness in relationships? Absence of sexual intercourse?
Cheating partners always do show those signs in behavior in more or less obvious way. A cheating girlfriend can start a sudden diet or go to a fitness club, go on buying and buying new clothes, probably of a more sexy style than usually. A cheating boyfriend may not be going crazy about his appearance as women do, but still can show more attention to what he looks like.
Changing habits, tastes, which have been the same for years, point on cheating partners also very distinctly. Also cheating may start with paying attention to the things they never cared about or were interested in. But that doesn’t always mean that he or she is cheating. That’s the sign of some strong influence of any kind from the outside. Changes in the relationships between the partners should make anyone become aware of that something’s happening. Cheating partners may become more attentive and nice, or, on the contrary, indifferent and aggressive; they can start giving sudden gifts trying to decrease the guilt they feel inside; or they can find permanent faults in the behavior of their second halves, blaming in such a on them their own relations on the side.
All these give heartache, and pain, and suffering… Your heart will tell you. Do you hesitate if it’s right to ask bluntly? Talk to your partner. Then take a decision.
Can we explain cheating partners? Why? Is your cheating boyfriend is crazy about beautiful women? Is he a primitive womanizer? Or, maybe, cheating partners are getting fed up with the present way of life and looking for the new? The beginning of your ‘love story’ is the most important phase. Did your partner tell you about his love of seducing, or you planned your future family life together? Here is the core of the problem. Maybe, you were so carried away by your dreams, that didn’t want to hear about his desire to be free?
How not to drive yourself and your partners to cheating?
It’s well-known that any problem is easier to prevent, than to solve its’ consequences. What kills your feelings? Sex is wonderful, but it has to be given much more than that, when two people live together. And only you have to find some way out of the situation.
The basis to the relationship must be 100 % trust in each other’s love. So, respect your partner’s wishes and interests. Give him/her a bit of liberty. Do not dissolve in your partner totally and absolutely. Have your own occupations and interests. With love there should never be such a word as ‘habit’. To find the ‘right’ person – who is 100 % physically and mentally attractive – is like finding a diamond in a mountain of sand. Treasure him/her! Never take the person you love for granted! Try to brighten his/her day with a word, a kiss, making love on the spur of the moment. Be fabulous and exciting, loving and wise.
You finally met somebody to love and to cherish. You dream about the wedding dress, making you a fairytale princess, exciting wonder and admiration of the bridegroom and all the guests, demonstrating your enviable chiselled figure.
Have you already thought your future life over? A country house, three or four lovely babies on the lawn near it? How to make your still-loving-and-hoping heart forget about it? You are absolutely crushed by the situation. What is to be done, if your Prince Charming is just cheating on you? Isn’t it better to be in blissful ignorance or to face the problem and tackle it? It’s up to you, but your aching heart is silent. Emotions, nothing but emotions.
But what made you sure, that you are cheated on (except the case, when you catch your cheating boyfriend/cheating girlfriend “on the scene of crime”)? They say, the most tormenting thing in cheating is suspicion.
What are the signs of cheating? Well, it depends. You have been knowing each other not for the first year, or you’re living together for a long time, you know all the habits and tastes of your partner, there’s already a lot of routine in the relationships, there’s no butterflies in the stomach, and you don’t even remember how it felt in the beginning. You’ve been feeling very comfortable, but suddenly you may find out that something doesn’t seem right or just different. In fact that’s the sign number one. So is he/she cheating on you?
Being too suspicious isn’t right either. But there’re some signs of a cheating partner that are quiet obvious. Yes, it’s the lipstick on the shirts, cheeks or anywhere else, smell of perfume, which is not yours, slim cigarettes or any other things forgotten in the car, whispering in the cell-phone talks, the unknown phone numbers or even addresses, notes, letters, e-mails, sms, extra-work, extra-miles, odd explanations of the absence or phone switched off, strange credit cart receipts, and on and on.
Are there any special signs of cheating? What makes us suspect? Less attention and time devoted to us? Or visa versa – as if your partner is redressing a wrong? More care about he/her himself/herself? New sexy underwear? Strange smell? Alien things? Have you noticed some coldness in relationships? Absence of sexual intercourse?
Cheating partners always do show those signs in behavior in more or less obvious way. A cheating girlfriend can start a sudden diet or go to a fitness club, go on buying and buying new clothes, probably of a more sexy style than usually. A cheating boyfriend may not be going crazy about his appearance as women do, but still can show more attention to what he looks like.
Changing habits, tastes, which have been the same for years, point on cheating partners also very distinctly. Also cheating may start with paying attention to the things they never cared about or were interested in. But that doesn’t always mean that he or she is cheating. That’s the sign of some strong influence of any kind from the outside. Changes in the relationships between the partners should make anyone become aware of that something’s happening. Cheating partners may become more attentive and nice, or, on the contrary, indifferent and aggressive; they can start giving sudden gifts trying to decrease the guilt they feel inside; or they can find permanent faults in the behavior of their second halves, blaming in such a on them their own relations on the side.
All these give heartache, and pain, and suffering… Your heart will tell you. Do you hesitate if it’s right to ask bluntly? Talk to your partner. Then take a decision.
Can we explain cheating partners? Why? Is your cheating boyfriend is crazy about beautiful women? Is he a primitive womanizer? Or, maybe, cheating partners are getting fed up with the present way of life and looking for the new? The beginning of your ‘love story’ is the most important phase. Did your partner tell you about his love of seducing, or you planned your future family life together? Here is the core of the problem. Maybe, you were so carried away by your dreams, that didn’t want to hear about his desire to be free?
How not to drive yourself and your partners to cheating?
It’s well-known that any problem is easier to prevent, than to solve its’ consequences. What kills your feelings? Sex is wonderful, but it has to be given much more than that, when two people live together. And only you have to find some way out of the situation.
The basis to the relationship must be 100 % trust in each other’s love. So, respect your partner’s wishes and interests. Give him/her a bit of liberty. Do not dissolve in your partner totally and absolutely. Have your own occupations and interests. With love there should never be such a word as ‘habit’. To find the ‘right’ person – who is 100 % physically and mentally attractive – is like finding a diamond in a mountain of sand. Treasure him/her! Never take the person you love for granted! Try to brighten his/her day with a word, a kiss, making love on the spur of the moment. Be fabulous and exciting, loving and wise.
tips to attract HER..........
1: Never Settle for Just Any Woman
The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you" is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!
2: Apply the Laws of Attraction
This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.
Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.
What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.
3: Don't Be Too Nice
Of course, everyone knows that being “nice" is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be – that’s how they choose their friends. Being “NICE" just isn’t what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one’s self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn’t mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.
4: Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!
Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn’t appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can’t change the way a person “feels." You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn’t “feel" attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of “feelings." Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just “feel" attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!
5: Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time
It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman’s mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman’s approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman’s approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!
6: Buying Her Affections will not Score You Any Real Points
Yes, it’s true, everyone loves freebies! But, it’s also true that you get what you pay for. If you lavish freebies on a woman to gain her attraction, you send a strong message that you are so insecure in yourself that you must compensate by spending money. Guess what? Insecurity is NOT attractive. What is attractive? Confidence! Instead of buying a woman expensive gifts – take action that you put thought into, such as arranging a unique evening for you both to cook a meal together or doing something especially memorable and romantic. This sends a strong, clear message to a woman that she is too important for you to risk getting your message across by just sending a bunch of flowers. No, you are a MAN! So, show her that you mean business!
7: Revealing Your Feelings Too Early - Yikes!
There is a time and place for everything! Revealing your feelings for a woman should only be done after you have had plenty of time to assess and confirm a mutual attraction. Jumping into the “feeling" pit too early on sends powerful signals to a woman that you lack control. On the flip side, taking it slowly and even appearing aloof is a much better position. When you slowly warm up to a comfortable place where the woman is begging you to share your feelings, you will instantly know how attractive it is to be desired in such a away. This does not mean you should avoid being genuine. Definitely be honest and up front about who you are and what you like and don’t like, but save the “feelings" exchange for a time when you know the woman is sincerely interested in hearing them.
8: Basing Your Worth upon Money And Looks
Of course, it’s true…there are a few rotten apples in the barrel that focus all their energy on attracting only men that have good looks and lots of money, basing all their hopes upon material issues. But, they are fairly easy to weed out of the bunch. In truth, most women are much more attracted to a man’s personality than anything else, including women who end up with very wealthy men that lack personality! History has shown us that very powerful, wealthy people have fallen head over heels in love with others that have neither power nor wealth. What did they have? They had a personality, and that personality was based upon confidence! You see, positive character traits are compelling attributes that act like magnets and literally draw women to you instantly. Believe it or not, women prefer to be romanced by men who hold out their arms and pull them in for a hug rather than men who pull out their wallets whenever they seek attention. Yes, having a J-O-B is quite important, so don’t go overboard. No woman enjoys being romanced by a free loader with no money at all. But, it doesn’t take a fortune in the bank or a plastic surgeon to exude sexual attractiveness.
9: Sacrificing Your Authenticity
Guess what unique attributes you have that no one else in the entire world possesses? You have an original authenticity that is completely different from everyone else. If you sacrifice your authenticity by appearing desperate for a woman’s attention, you lack the ability to attract her. So, what do you do? You find out who you are and you stick with it. You don’t pretend to be something you are not and you don’t beg for a woman’s permission to be your true self. You walk the walk and talk the talk, and let the cards fall where they may. Why? Because if you don’t, you will end up settling for whatever it is you get.
10: Just Do It!
Countless numbers of people exude ignorance about matters that they know exactly how to handle. If you want something, you MUST take action to get it. If you find out that it wasn’t what you really wanted, then you move on to the next challenge. Life is a constantly evolving experience of action after action after action. So, if you want to approach a woman you’re attracted to and get her number or if you’re dating someone that you feel like kissing, don’t just sit there acting all nervous and confused. Instead, walk right up to her and ask for the number or move right in and kiss her. Sitting on the sideline and wondering what to do about things that you know you want will not score you any points. And believe it or not, women are attracted to men who know what they want and take action to get it. So, how do you do this without offending a woman? You confidently act on your desires without regard to potential failure while exhibiting a genuine respect for her feelings. If she appears disinterested, FINE…that’s your cue to exit stage left. But, don’t let it deter you from approaching the next woman you’re attracted to...or she might just be the one you pass on the way out the door!
The biggest mistake you can possibly make in any relationship is to settle for whatever woman comes along for fear you can’t do any better than what you have! Doing this will prevent you from ever finding the woman you are truly meant to be with. It is difficult to take a leap of faith, especially in matters of the heart, but settling to be with a woman that doesn’t “do it for you" is a HUGE mistake…for you both! Do NOT settle for just any woman hold out for someone that you really connect with and live the life of your dreams! Believe it or not, women admire men who know what they want and won’t settle for anything less. It is a major turn on!
2: Apply the Laws of Attraction
This subject has been poked, prodded, turned upside down and inside out. It is contained within every magazine and book and research paper on the subject of love that you will ever run across. As a relationship expert myself, I have an entire wall of books dedicated to this subject alone, and more books and articles and theories are created every day around the globe on the differences between men and women regarding their particular triggers for attraction. It is right under your nose, every day, everywhere…on TV, out in public, you name the place…it’s right there staring you down! Yet unbelievably, there are STILL people who are completely clueless about the Laws of Attraction.
Now, this is not to say that the Laws of Attraction are good or right or even tolerable at times. But, there are certain inalienable truths about attraction that you need to know and understand if you desire to become successful in any romantic relationship.
What are the Laws of Attraction? Simply put, Men and Woman are polar opposites when it comes to attraction. Men initially feel sexual attraction based upon a woman’s physical appearance, which then leads them into a desire for a relationship. But, women are initially attracted to a man’s qualities. Sure, women will admire a man’s looks, but that doesn’t lead them into a desire for a relationship with him. It’s when a man exhibits confidence in his body language and communication–regardless of his looks–that women feel a powerful sexual attraction that over shadows the man’s physical attributes.
3: Don't Be Too Nice
Of course, everyone knows that being “nice" is considered socially acceptable in the world. But, women do not choose a lover based upon how nice they may be – that’s how they choose their friends. Being “NICE" just isn’t what ignites the flames of passion. What does ignite the flames? Attraction. What is attractive? Confidence in one’s self! Use positive body language, take meaningful actions, and be your genuine self without regard to what others may think of you. This doesn’t mean you should act like a jerk, because no one likes a jerk either. It simply means that in order to attract a woman, you MUST be confident in yourself.
4: Convincing a Woman To Like You is a Big No-No!
Do not waste any of your valuable time trying to convince a woman that doesn’t appear interested in you romantically that you are the person they are meant to be with. It will NEVER work, and in fact, may backfire on you in a most embarrassing way. Why is this? Because you can’t change the way a person “feels." You can try to understand and you can offer alternative points of view, but you cannot change their feelings. To make matters worse, when faced with the knowledge that a woman doesn’t “feel" attracted to them, some men often take ridiculous action to convince them otherwise-they will relentlessly pursue the woman without regard for her lack of “feelings." Spare yourself this tragedy and move on to the next lady in line, who might just “feel" attracted to you-an absolute necessity to a fulfilling relationship!
5: Seeking Her Approval is a Waste of Time
It is completely adverse to human nature for a woman to desire a man who seems to actively pursue her approval. Psychologically, it instills in a woman’s mind that the man is automatically not worthy of her attention, and no matter what you do to gain the woman’s approval…you will always be considered less than worthy. ALWAYS! The simple truth is that you will lack the necessary confidence in yourself in order to succeed in gaining the attraction you seek. Now, this does not mean you should completely ignore a woman’s approval-just that, instead, you need to gain it through self confidence. NOT by seeking her approval of you!
6: Buying Her Affections will not Score You Any Real Points
Yes, it’s true, everyone loves freebies! But, it’s also true that you get what you pay for. If you lavish freebies on a woman to gain her attraction, you send a strong message that you are so insecure in yourself that you must compensate by spending money. Guess what? Insecurity is NOT attractive. What is attractive? Confidence! Instead of buying a woman expensive gifts – take action that you put thought into, such as arranging a unique evening for you both to cook a meal together or doing something especially memorable and romantic. This sends a strong, clear message to a woman that she is too important for you to risk getting your message across by just sending a bunch of flowers. No, you are a MAN! So, show her that you mean business!
7: Revealing Your Feelings Too Early - Yikes!
There is a time and place for everything! Revealing your feelings for a woman should only be done after you have had plenty of time to assess and confirm a mutual attraction. Jumping into the “feeling" pit too early on sends powerful signals to a woman that you lack control. On the flip side, taking it slowly and even appearing aloof is a much better position. When you slowly warm up to a comfortable place where the woman is begging you to share your feelings, you will instantly know how attractive it is to be desired in such a away. This does not mean you should avoid being genuine. Definitely be honest and up front about who you are and what you like and don’t like, but save the “feelings" exchange for a time when you know the woman is sincerely interested in hearing them.
8: Basing Your Worth upon Money And Looks
Of course, it’s true…there are a few rotten apples in the barrel that focus all their energy on attracting only men that have good looks and lots of money, basing all their hopes upon material issues. But, they are fairly easy to weed out of the bunch. In truth, most women are much more attracted to a man’s personality than anything else, including women who end up with very wealthy men that lack personality! History has shown us that very powerful, wealthy people have fallen head over heels in love with others that have neither power nor wealth. What did they have? They had a personality, and that personality was based upon confidence! You see, positive character traits are compelling attributes that act like magnets and literally draw women to you instantly. Believe it or not, women prefer to be romanced by men who hold out their arms and pull them in for a hug rather than men who pull out their wallets whenever they seek attention. Yes, having a J-O-B is quite important, so don’t go overboard. No woman enjoys being romanced by a free loader with no money at all. But, it doesn’t take a fortune in the bank or a plastic surgeon to exude sexual attractiveness.
9: Sacrificing Your Authenticity
Guess what unique attributes you have that no one else in the entire world possesses? You have an original authenticity that is completely different from everyone else. If you sacrifice your authenticity by appearing desperate for a woman’s attention, you lack the ability to attract her. So, what do you do? You find out who you are and you stick with it. You don’t pretend to be something you are not and you don’t beg for a woman’s permission to be your true self. You walk the walk and talk the talk, and let the cards fall where they may. Why? Because if you don’t, you will end up settling for whatever it is you get.
10: Just Do It!
Countless numbers of people exude ignorance about matters that they know exactly how to handle. If you want something, you MUST take action to get it. If you find out that it wasn’t what you really wanted, then you move on to the next challenge. Life is a constantly evolving experience of action after action after action. So, if you want to approach a woman you’re attracted to and get her number or if you’re dating someone that you feel like kissing, don’t just sit there acting all nervous and confused. Instead, walk right up to her and ask for the number or move right in and kiss her. Sitting on the sideline and wondering what to do about things that you know you want will not score you any points. And believe it or not, women are attracted to men who know what they want and take action to get it. So, how do you do this without offending a woman? You confidently act on your desires without regard to potential failure while exhibiting a genuine respect for her feelings. If she appears disinterested, FINE…that’s your cue to exit stage left. But, don’t let it deter you from approaching the next woman you’re attracted to...or she might just be the one you pass on the way out the door!
10 tips to attract women
What are the things that most women go for in a man besides the good looks? Here are 10 tips to attract women.
IMPORTANT: You do not need to be particularly good looking or rich to get a woman. If you know how to behave and know what to say, you can go a very long way with most women.
1. Confidence. Women are attracted to men who look confident (not to be mistaken with arrogance), in control, comfortable and at ease in any situation and environment. Confidence is one of the most important traits in a man. Remember, with women it is mostly a psychological game!
2. Charme. Again, this is not to be confused with arrogance. A charming man is a man who is relaxed, funny, slightly flirtatious (not sleazy!) and a good entertainer (although not a clown!).
3. Good manners. If you are rude, ignorant and do not know how to behave in public, you would be considered as a simple embarrassment. Women would not want to be associated with you and in most cases would avoid you like the plague.
4.Savoire faire. Women love attention. This is a fact. They love to feel that they are the most important and precious thing ever. If you want to get a woman, you must show her attention. You must be careful not to over-do it though. If you over-do it, she will loose interest. You must pay her a compliment every now and then, offer her a drink (or whatever), show her some attention for a while, but you must also give your attention to other people (i.e. you must never give the impression of being desperate. The moment you do, she will loose interest). You must leave her with the feeling of wanting more from you.
5. Look clean and smell nice. Most women are really put off by a man who looks scruffy or dirty or that can be smelled from a distance! Avoid bathing in cheap aftershave or use half a bottle of deodorant. That is SERIOUSLY off putting. Use, sparingly, only expensive aftershave (avoid cheap and nasty stuff: women can tell!) and bit of good and non-overpowering deodorant (i.e. if you leave a strong trail, you have over-done it).
6. Tell interesting stories. Women respond very well to conversation. They love to hear funny anecdotes or cool short stories (e.g. adventures you or your friends have had etc). AVOID long monologues or giving too many details when telling stories. This is not considered as ‘interesting conversation’ but as ‘boring and agonising listening session’. DO NOT go there.
7. Listen to her. Show a real interest in the things that she is saying. When women talk, they share a part of themselves, being that dreams, experiences, feelings etc. When they do that, they feel they have connected with you. Women detest men who do listen to them. It seriously infuriates them.
BONUS POINTS
8. Wear an expensive watch. This is perhaps not essential to all women, although most women would notice your watch (especially a Rolex). Whatever you do, DO NOT make a blatant reference to your expensive watch if you are wearing one. Men who do that are classified as cheap. Let the woman discover your watch by herself. You can be certain that she will!!!
9. Buy a Sport car. Most women do like sport and expensive cars and would be very pleased if they attracted a man who had one (Mercedes, or Porsche, or similar). Once again, your attitude is vital in this. DO NOT brag about it. That would not be cool. You MUST BE COOL about it. Let her find out about it. Be certain that she will, and when she does she will be very impressed by the fact that you haven’t bragged about it (although she may not tell you that). By you being cool about the expensive things you possess (such as an expensive watch or sport car), she will assume that these things are normal for you. That will make you look cooler and even more desirable.
10 Take her to expensive places, at least occasionally. And pay for it! If you spend money on a woman, she will feel that you really appreciate her. However, be careful not to scrutinise the bill too much when it arrives. A quick glance is more than enough. Otherwise she will think that you are tight with your money, and women HATE men who are tight with their money. Tightness with money is one of the worse traits that a man could possible have!
IMPORTANT: You do not need to be particularly good looking or rich to get a woman. If you know how to behave and know what to say, you can go a very long way with most women.
1. Confidence. Women are attracted to men who look confident (not to be mistaken with arrogance), in control, comfortable and at ease in any situation and environment. Confidence is one of the most important traits in a man. Remember, with women it is mostly a psychological game!
2. Charme. Again, this is not to be confused with arrogance. A charming man is a man who is relaxed, funny, slightly flirtatious (not sleazy!) and a good entertainer (although not a clown!).
3. Good manners. If you are rude, ignorant and do not know how to behave in public, you would be considered as a simple embarrassment. Women would not want to be associated with you and in most cases would avoid you like the plague.
4.Savoire faire. Women love attention. This is a fact. They love to feel that they are the most important and precious thing ever. If you want to get a woman, you must show her attention. You must be careful not to over-do it though. If you over-do it, she will loose interest. You must pay her a compliment every now and then, offer her a drink (or whatever), show her some attention for a while, but you must also give your attention to other people (i.e. you must never give the impression of being desperate. The moment you do, she will loose interest). You must leave her with the feeling of wanting more from you.
5. Look clean and smell nice. Most women are really put off by a man who looks scruffy or dirty or that can be smelled from a distance! Avoid bathing in cheap aftershave or use half a bottle of deodorant. That is SERIOUSLY off putting. Use, sparingly, only expensive aftershave (avoid cheap and nasty stuff: women can tell!) and bit of good and non-overpowering deodorant (i.e. if you leave a strong trail, you have over-done it).
6. Tell interesting stories. Women respond very well to conversation. They love to hear funny anecdotes or cool short stories (e.g. adventures you or your friends have had etc). AVOID long monologues or giving too many details when telling stories. This is not considered as ‘interesting conversation’ but as ‘boring and agonising listening session’. DO NOT go there.
7. Listen to her. Show a real interest in the things that she is saying. When women talk, they share a part of themselves, being that dreams, experiences, feelings etc. When they do that, they feel they have connected with you. Women detest men who do listen to them. It seriously infuriates them.
BONUS POINTS
8. Wear an expensive watch. This is perhaps not essential to all women, although most women would notice your watch (especially a Rolex). Whatever you do, DO NOT make a blatant reference to your expensive watch if you are wearing one. Men who do that are classified as cheap. Let the woman discover your watch by herself. You can be certain that she will!!!
9. Buy a Sport car. Most women do like sport and expensive cars and would be very pleased if they attracted a man who had one (Mercedes, or Porsche, or similar). Once again, your attitude is vital in this. DO NOT brag about it. That would not be cool. You MUST BE COOL about it. Let her find out about it. Be certain that she will, and when she does she will be very impressed by the fact that you haven’t bragged about it (although she may not tell you that). By you being cool about the expensive things you possess (such as an expensive watch or sport car), she will assume that these things are normal for you. That will make you look cooler and even more desirable.
10 Take her to expensive places, at least occasionally. And pay for it! If you spend money on a woman, she will feel that you really appreciate her. However, be careful not to scrutinise the bill too much when it arrives. A quick glance is more than enough. Otherwise she will think that you are tight with your money, and women HATE men who are tight with their money. Tightness with money is one of the worse traits that a man could possible have!
why do a man cheat...?
Why do men lie? There are many reasons. The lie because it’s in their blood, because they think that the truth will hurt, because they don’t think it’s necessary to tell the whole thing with the details, because they want to seem better than they are, because they want to make women love them, because they are sure it’ll be better for everybody and so on. After all “why does he lie” – is not a question of that big importance. But a woman should become worried if a man starts to tell the truth. This usually means that something’s going wrong. A woman should find out the reasons for that sudden sincerity to know what to do.
When we love we are used not to see the flows of our partner or not to show that we see them. If fact those flows mean very little when there’s love in the relationships. But when it’s gone all those unpleasant details in the character, appearance or behavior start to annoy us tremendously especially because they have become so obvious after a long period of not noticing them. That’s when men start pointing on the defaults of their women in the most rude and unpleasant way. If a man doesn’t love a woman anymore he doesn’t care whether his words hurt, if he doesn’t like something he speaks about it as it is just because he can’t any reasons to stay silent or to lie about it anymore. For any woman it’s better to leave because any relationships are supposed to bring care and attention but not permanent criticism and discomfort. You may of course stay, swallow your pride, watch your self-confidence fading away, feel yourself miserable and etc. But ask yourself is that really what you want?
But of course a woman isn’t meant to quit any relationships after a couple of critical notices in her address. The reasons why her man speaks the unpleasant truth can be different. Maybe he’s simply fed up with one of her very annoying habits. He loves her and he tried not to pay attention to that feature or habit, but he’s a human being and his patience isn’t eternal. So if he burst out once that doesn’t mean that will repeat over and over again. Probably he’s already apologized a million times and said that he never wanted to hurt her. Well in this case a woman should start looking closer at herself if she doesn’t want that explosion if truth to repeat.
Neither relationships are possible without compromises. And can love make us better if we don’t want to collaborate with it?
Sometimes he seems to love and to care but also he keeps telling those unpleasant things again and again. A man may compare his girlfriend with other women and every other woman is always better than his one. He may criticize her even in public. Probably he even like it. That all means only one thing – a man doesn’t respect that woman, because when we respect someone we respect even his or her week points. And still sometimes we love the people we don’t respect. So it’s up to a woman to decide whether it’s OK for her always to play a role of such a poor-thing which is loved but treated as nothing. She may try to talk to her man, explain to him that it hurts her to hear all that truth and that usually people show love in a little different way. Maybe she should do something to gain his respect of cause it these relationships mean much for her.
Sometimes a man tells the truth about himself from the very start to show how independent and indifferent he is, to let a woman know that he doesn’t care much not about her, not about any other woman, probably not about anyone but himself at all. Do you really want someone who’s claiming he will never need you? If you love such an independent guy you of cause may try to change his mind by conceiving him that you are the one of kind but see that there’s not much respect and mutual understanding in such relationships from the beginning.
Another kind of man loving truth so very much is only a provocateur in fact. He talks much about his past, about the incredible women he had, about his sexual fantasies the main hero of which is not his girlfriend. Also he compare her with all the women around and it always turn out by he’s words that she’s almost nothing compared with her. A girl should understand that he’s only trying to tease her and to watch her reaction. She may stay imperturbable and careless about all these talk or even ask him: “If they are so good than what are you still doing here?”. And we’ll work. But at the same time she should ask herself the same question.
One more case when a man tells the truth is when he doesn’t know what to do with that truth. For example, he’s cheater on his girlfriend and told her about it because he’s too weak-willed to decide what to do. He wants his girl to think about it instead of himself.
We all were taught that it’s wrong to lie. So the truth is good, but not always. Sometimes it’s better not to say or hear a thing. Everyone is free to decide how much truth in his or her life one is able to bare.
When we love we are used not to see the flows of our partner or not to show that we see them. If fact those flows mean very little when there’s love in the relationships. But when it’s gone all those unpleasant details in the character, appearance or behavior start to annoy us tremendously especially because they have become so obvious after a long period of not noticing them. That’s when men start pointing on the defaults of their women in the most rude and unpleasant way. If a man doesn’t love a woman anymore he doesn’t care whether his words hurt, if he doesn’t like something he speaks about it as it is just because he can’t any reasons to stay silent or to lie about it anymore. For any woman it’s better to leave because any relationships are supposed to bring care and attention but not permanent criticism and discomfort. You may of course stay, swallow your pride, watch your self-confidence fading away, feel yourself miserable and etc. But ask yourself is that really what you want?
But of course a woman isn’t meant to quit any relationships after a couple of critical notices in her address. The reasons why her man speaks the unpleasant truth can be different. Maybe he’s simply fed up with one of her very annoying habits. He loves her and he tried not to pay attention to that feature or habit, but he’s a human being and his patience isn’t eternal. So if he burst out once that doesn’t mean that will repeat over and over again. Probably he’s already apologized a million times and said that he never wanted to hurt her. Well in this case a woman should start looking closer at herself if she doesn’t want that explosion if truth to repeat.
Neither relationships are possible without compromises. And can love make us better if we don’t want to collaborate with it?
Sometimes he seems to love and to care but also he keeps telling those unpleasant things again and again. A man may compare his girlfriend with other women and every other woman is always better than his one. He may criticize her even in public. Probably he even like it. That all means only one thing – a man doesn’t respect that woman, because when we respect someone we respect even his or her week points. And still sometimes we love the people we don’t respect. So it’s up to a woman to decide whether it’s OK for her always to play a role of such a poor-thing which is loved but treated as nothing. She may try to talk to her man, explain to him that it hurts her to hear all that truth and that usually people show love in a little different way. Maybe she should do something to gain his respect of cause it these relationships mean much for her.
Sometimes a man tells the truth about himself from the very start to show how independent and indifferent he is, to let a woman know that he doesn’t care much not about her, not about any other woman, probably not about anyone but himself at all. Do you really want someone who’s claiming he will never need you? If you love such an independent guy you of cause may try to change his mind by conceiving him that you are the one of kind but see that there’s not much respect and mutual understanding in such relationships from the beginning.
Another kind of man loving truth so very much is only a provocateur in fact. He talks much about his past, about the incredible women he had, about his sexual fantasies the main hero of which is not his girlfriend. Also he compare her with all the women around and it always turn out by he’s words that she’s almost nothing compared with her. A girl should understand that he’s only trying to tease her and to watch her reaction. She may stay imperturbable and careless about all these talk or even ask him: “If they are so good than what are you still doing here?”. And we’ll work. But at the same time she should ask herself the same question.
One more case when a man tells the truth is when he doesn’t know what to do with that truth. For example, he’s cheater on his girlfriend and told her about it because he’s too weak-willed to decide what to do. He wants his girl to think about it instead of himself.
We all were taught that it’s wrong to lie. So the truth is good, but not always. Sometimes it’s better not to say or hear a thing. Everyone is free to decide how much truth in his or her life one is able to bare.
What makes a woman attractive to a man?
What makes a woman attractive to a man?
In fact every woman sends out signals to men. Most men can detect and read your signals in a matter of seconds. The first pulses you emit are your dress and your body language.
It’s incredibly easy for a woman to attract attention from men. Just wear skin-tight, thigh-length, revealing clothing. You’ll get lots of male attention. But will it be the kind of attention you want? Fishermen insist that the fish you catch is determined by the bait you use.
Would you like to make yourself more appealing to a man who will be attracted to you as a person and not as an object? If so, remember these tips to keep in mind when trying to attract a man.
Confidence is the number one attraction. Being more confident with yourself and your surroundings will attract someone that is equal to you. You will also notice that more people are drawn to you.
Appearance is also a big issue. Your appearance and body language may catch his attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a man's interest.
Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression. If he sees you when you are at your worst then he will not want to look a second time.
Give a man a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that haunts his memory, soft clothes that he yearns to touch and a smile that he can't get out of his mind. And don’t forget to leave a little something to the imagination. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a man.
Make him feel important by focusing your full attention on him. Listen intently to what he has to say and respond with respect for his opinions, laugh at his jokes no matter how lama they are, take an interest in his interests.
And finally – don't try and be something you are not. He will be falling for a false idol and will not want to know you when he sees the real you. Let him know you're different from all the rest. Emphasize your originality through your personality, intelligence and behavior.
In fact every woman sends out signals to men. Most men can detect and read your signals in a matter of seconds. The first pulses you emit are your dress and your body language.
It’s incredibly easy for a woman to attract attention from men. Just wear skin-tight, thigh-length, revealing clothing. You’ll get lots of male attention. But will it be the kind of attention you want? Fishermen insist that the fish you catch is determined by the bait you use.
Would you like to make yourself more appealing to a man who will be attracted to you as a person and not as an object? If so, remember these tips to keep in mind when trying to attract a man.
Confidence is the number one attraction. Being more confident with yourself and your surroundings will attract someone that is equal to you. You will also notice that more people are drawn to you.
Appearance is also a big issue. Your appearance and body language may catch his attention, but it takes personality and charm to sustain a man's interest.
Realize you only have one chance to make a good first impression. If he sees you when you are at your worst then he will not want to look a second time.
Give a man a reason to think about you. Wear a lingering fragrance that haunts his memory, soft clothes that he yearns to touch and a smile that he can't get out of his mind. And don’t forget to leave a little something to the imagination. An air of mystery can be provocative and appealing to a man.
Make him feel important by focusing your full attention on him. Listen intently to what he has to say and respond with respect for his opinions, laugh at his jokes no matter how lama they are, take an interest in his interests.
And finally – don't try and be something you are not. He will be falling for a false idol and will not want to know you when he sees the real you. Let him know you're different from all the rest. Emphasize your originality through your personality, intelligence and behavior.
Monday, July 21, 2008
how to mend a broken heart
Days 1 and 2
Step1
Breathe. All you can do is survive this first and difficult day. Take one day at a time. Give yourself permission to mourn. Call in sick at work, sleep all day, eat too much ice cream, sob. Step2
Congratulate yourself for being human: It is only when you open yourself to love that your heart can break. Develop and repeat a helpful mantra to get you through the initial shock and pain, such as "This too shall pass" or "I will survive." Step3
Reach out to a close friend or family member. It helps to share your thoughts with others. Watch a movie to distract yourself. Choose a comedy that has cheered you up in the past. Or watch a movie that's guaranteed to make you sob--it may surprise you how good that feels. Month 1
Step1
Week 1: Force yourself to go out even if you are feeling despondent. Take yourself out for a cup of coffee or go on a long walk. Express your emotions in a way that comes naturally. Write in a journal, paint, sculpt or play music. Do daily cardiovascular exercise--the endorphins will give your spirits an immediate lift. Resist the urge to call your ex. Instead, write a letter. Don't mail it. Go out of town for the weekend to distance yourself from the temptation to call your ex. Visit an old friend or go back home to your roots. A change of environment does wonders for the spirit. Put everything that reminds you of your ex in a box and seal it. Throw it away, donate it to charity or ask a friend to hold on to it indefinitely. Step2
Week 2: Surround yourself with friends. This may mean reaching out to people you fell out of touch with during the relationship. Make lists to help you regain your confidence and identity: a list of your friends, of things you like, of what you want to accomplish in the next decade. Spoil yourself: Get a new hairstyle, have a spa day or go shopping. Resist the urge to call your ex. Step3
Week 3: Assess the experience. Have you learned anything about yourself? Does the experience make you more empathetic to others who've suffered a hardship? Begin an activity that will fill your time, distract your mind and rebuild your confidence. Train for a marathon, take up yoga or learn a new language. Resist the urge to call your ex. Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter, soup kitchen or tutoring center. It will take your mind off your own woes and keep your suffering in perspective. Step4
Week 4: Continue regular socializing and exercising. While socializing, though, make sure you don't depend on alcohol or drugs to dull the pain. Call your ex if you feel it would be helpful. Resist if you merely want to say hurtful things. Consider dating other people, but be wary of rebound relationships. Understand that you will need to experience and process sadness, anger, guilt and fear to fully heal. Burying or ignoring these emotions will thwart the healing process. Write, cry, share the feelings with friends. Months 3 to 6
Step1
Force yourself to go on dates. You'll be surprised to discover that your heart can still flutter over someone. It's part of the healing process. Step2
Consult a psychiatrist if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, such as lack of appetite, insomnia or too much sleeping, low self-esteem, and an inability to concentrate or carry out routine tasks. Ask a friend or physician to recommend one who is experienced in treating depression. Step3
Remember that healing is a process that takes time. Expect waves of sadness, anger, guilt or fear even after you think you are over it. Give your heart time to heal. One year and beyond
Step1
Compartmentalize the experience in your memory: "My heart was broken once. It really hurt and I'm glad it's over." Step2
Reach out to your ex if you want to re-establish a friendship. Do not harbor secret ambitions of winning him or her back. You'll only set yourself up for another heartbreak. WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH A WOMAN
You might not see this right now, but for most
men, there's nothing more important than knowing
that he makes a woman feel great when she's with
him.
men, there's nothing more important than knowing
that he makes a woman feel great when she's with
him.
Seriously.
Think "ego."
If you think this truth about men through,
you'll start to have a shift in perspective and
see something you've probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talk
about something she thinks is wrong in their
relationship, oftentimes a man gets upset not
because he doesn't want to listen to the woman or
talk...
But because it's difficult for him to come to
terms with the idea that the woman could be
unhappy with him.
A man thinks, "It makes me feel like less of a
man since I don't make her happy. If she's
unhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be good
enough."
Imagine if a man was constantly expressing his
feelings about your relationship to you that
seemed disappointed and frustrated.
How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourself
that you'd talk to him about it and try and make
things better...
But really you'd start to have one of 2 things
come into your mind either consciously or
subconsciously:
1. Something really is wrong with YOU and the way
you are in the relationship, and he's trying to
tell you...
2. Something is wrong with HIM and how HE thinks
and feels that has nothing to do with you, and
it's his own "bad thinking" about HIMSELF that's
making him obsessively unhappy...
Either way, a whole lot MORE DISTANCE is
created between you two.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion that
this means you should try and pretend things are
ok when they're not.
That when you're not having the physical and
emotional connection with a man you know is
possible, that you can't communicate how you feel
with a man.
WRONG.
My point: If you want to learn how to connect
with a man on a deeper level, then what you say
isn't the most IMPORTANT thing.
It's HOW and WHEN you say it.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of communicating with a
man and creating a deep level of Physical and
"Emotional Attraction" can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know EXACTLY what it's like to
be in a relationship with a man who has NO
INTENTION of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he's not feeling that powerful
gut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all the
fear and excuses for NOT being with you and
building a great life and partnership go away
without RESISTANCE.
Do you know how to make a man FEEL this way
when he's with you.
Or are you still trying to "CONVINCE" him with
words and your own knowledge and "logic" that a
close, loving, lasting relationship with him will
make him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a man
"says" that he wants and doesn't want with a
woman... that most women don't ever "get", being
the woman a man is NATURALLY ATTRACTED to on a
deep level is one of the BIG ONES.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that will
make a man who "says" he doesn't want a serious
relationship beg a woman for a real commitment and
a future together.
If you understand the secrets of how attraction
works for a man, you will notice that men will
start to behave VERY differently around you.
It's called "Natural & Lasting Attraction."
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