Secrets To Nurture Your New Relationship

et me share an important insight
about relationships, and a few tips with you.

I'll start here:

What do you think is the single most important
thing that makes or breaks your new relationship?

I'll tell you-

After that initial ATTRACTION is created and
shared between you both... the single most
important part of your new relationship is the
level of COMMUNICATION you and a man share.

I'll get right to the point regarding how
this important part of relationships is working
out for YOU-

Does the way you and the man in your life
communicate make you feel loved and appreciated?

Or does it only frustrate you and make you
feel sad, alone, and misunderstood?

If you don't know what to say to a man to start
open conversations about your relationship and the
feelings you're both having without triggering him
to pull away... then creating a real relationship
where you can truly love and support each other is
going to be an impossible struggle.

There's an easier way...

Do you know the SECRETS that will make a man
feel excited and inspired to talk, listen, and
share his feelings with you... even if he's never
been this way before in a relationship?

The reality is, most men don't just open up
and communicate the way you want and need them to.

And because of this, lots of women end up
trying to compensate by TALKING MORE and doing
all the "work" in their relationship.

Of course, this just drains you and encourages
the man you're with to WITHDRAW even more.

The things that allow you and a man to listen,
hear and understand each other aren't "givens" in
your relationship.

Just because you have strong FEELINGS for each
other, it doesn't mean you're going to have the
kind of COMMUNICATION you need to make your
relationship truly work and LAST.

More love and sacrifice on your part is NOT
going to make the lack of communication and
sharing you have in your relationship better.

But you're thoughtful and generous for trying
this and caring enough to give even more of
yourself.

Unfortunately, stretching yourself to the point
of frustration and emotional break-down isn't
going to help you - or him.

So then what should you do?

There are a few essential "keys" to building
an "open line" of communication in your
relationship with a man that will prevent him
from closing off, withdrawing, and becoming
distant no matter what happens between you.

Do you know how to share YOUR FEELINGS with a
man (even the most intense ones that scare you
too)so that instead of getting irritated or
freaked out by them... he listens in a supportive
and understanding way?

I've been able to boil down the complex
process of what makes talking and communication
in your relationship work so that the more you
share - the more a man is drawn to you and wants
to give you love and understanding.

At the essence of what makes things work is
the "hidden message" behind what you're saying to
a man that even you aren't fully aware of - but
have everything to do with YOUR FEELINGS and the
response deep down you really want from him.

Each time you try and share something with
a man, and each time he responds to you (or
doesn't)... there's a subtle message being
communicated under the surface.

And this is going on even if you don't see
this right now, or believe it's there or not.

Each communication has what's called a "bid"
to it. And a "bid" is the hidden "subtext" that
is what we REALLY MEAN, or are really asking for.

For example, a man might say to you-

"Honey, I don't feel like talking right now"
and do it with a tone of voice that shows he's
frustrated or annoyed.

This is a "bid."

What a man REALLY MEANS when he says this is-

"I don't know if I have the ENERGY and the
desire to get into this with you, because I'm
afraid it will turn into some big emotional thing,
and I'm not willing to go there with you now."

Of course, most men aren't even fully AWARE
that this is what they're feeling or
communicating. It's just their instant EMOTIONAL
RESPONSE that isn't entirely conscious and thought
through.

Help the man in your life be the one who can
truly hear you and recognize and care for you and
your feelings... and get HIS NEEDS MET at the
same time.

Once you learn how to do this, you will
instantly become that amazing woman a man feels
relaxed, open and "free" around.

Translation - the woman he wants to STAY WITH.

Close the gap between your feelings and what
the man in your life "gets" about you.

Don't wait for things to fix themselves... or
keep waiting for a man to finally "get it" when he
hasn't figured it out after all this time and
effort.

I'm going to ask you a
similar question to the one I asked you earlier.

And I want you to think about it again with
a few things you've already learned here...

Does what you do and say with the man in your
life INSPIRE HIM to want more with you and to open
up in a way he never has before with a woman?

Or does he feel TIRED and DRAINED by you and
your relationship... and he CLOSES OFF the way a
man will when he feels emotionally overwhelmed by
a woman?

Think about him for a second... and try and
put YOUR SIDE of things and what you think he
should be thinking or doing aside.

How is he feeling?

And how is he experiencing you and your
relationship?

Think about it for a few seconds...

Oh, and don't worry - I'll get to talking about
how to make sure YOUR FEELINGS are a priority here
too... and how to get them heard.

In this email I'm going to share with you a few
inside secrets from a man's perspective on how you
could accidentally be getting in the way of the
great connection the man in your life feels when
he's with you.

If this CONNECTION is nurtured in the right
way, it can be the foundation for creating a
great RELATIONSHIP a man will beg you to commit
to with him.

If this CONNECTION is over-analyzed, questioned,
or clouded up by too much fear and anxiety and
questioning... then starting a real relationship
with a man is going to be practically impossible.

I'm sure you've heard of that whole "putting
the cart before the horse" thing.

Trying to get a man to know how he feels and
what he wants in a relationship with you before
he's even had chance to enjoy the CONNECTION you
share and discover what it means to HIM is a sure
fire way to ruin a good thing.

Please... don't do it.

The problem is, most women don't CONSCIOUSLY
choose to put the cart before the horse with a
man.

It's their EMOTIONS that call them to action
and take over.

There's nothing wrong with having your
feelings, or with sharing them.

It's healthy and important to share what's
on your mind and how you feel.

But HOW you share what you think and feel with
a man is what makes all the difference.

I'm going to show you how, without knowing
it, you could be killing that special CONNECTION
and the ATTRACTION a man feels for you.

When you get in the way of what makes a man
FEEL that intense ATTRACTION that drew him to you
in the first place, he'll do something that can
easily spell the beginning of the end-

He'll CLOSE OFF to his DESIRE for you... and
question EVERYTHING about whether you're the
right woman for him to be with and STAY with.

Which brings me to an important question I
want to ask you.

And please, answer this as honestly as you
can... as this is something that can help you
immediately.

Here's the question...

If you have a man who's acting WITHDRAWN and
pulling away from you... could it be possible that
something YOU are doing is somehow keeping him
from feeling INSPIRED to want to be with you?

And that the more you sense his hesitation
and UNCERTAINTY about you and whether he wants
to stay in your relationship... the more you
subtly REACT and RESPOND to this out of fear
and do things that only push him farther away?

Don't accidentally show a man things that will
unconsciously shift his feelings for you to a
"casual" relationship in his mind where he'll only
want to be with you as long as it's easy and
convenient for him.

I call this the "For Now" Relationship.

A man could be with you, be faithful and
committed, but only be thinking of you "for now."

On the other hand... if you know the right
things to say and do that will instantly show
him that you're the kind of woman who he would be
better off with than without... then he'll quickly
shift to what I call a "Forever" Relationship with
you.

This is where a man doesn't just think of you
and love you "for now", but forever.

*Tip: If you're finding that it's EASY to get a
guy interested at first... but HARD to find that
one truly RIGHT MAN and turn your chemistry and
connection into a great and lasting relationship
that LASTS and goes deeper than "for now" in his
mind, then it's time you stopped the common
pattern in your life too many other women share.

I'm talking about the pattern of:

1) meeting a new guy

2) getting instantly wrapped up in your new
"relationship"

3) telling yourself it's different this time

4) finding out it's not that different with this
man than it was with "the others"... even though
he's a good guy

5) trying the same things you've always tried to
fix what's not working so he'll figure it out

6) feeling shocked, drained and heartbroken
(again) when you find your back in the same place
you swore you wouldn't get into after your last
relationship

7) thinking you should give up on men and love
altogether

Why is this pattern so common?

Here's one of the big pieces of the puzzle...

Too many women make the same set of mistakes
early on when "dating" and in new relationships
that literally cause a man to shift his thinking
and feelings 180 degrees back to wanting his
"freedom" and not being "ready" for a real
relationship.

Don't let this happen to you, when you know
you are finally with the right man and you just
need to get your relationship to the right place
for love to keep blossoming.

It doesn't have to work this way where a man
always PULLS AWAY and RESISTS your love and your
relationship.

It can be easy. But only if you learn what
really works with a man and what the few simple
things are a man needs to see, feel, and
experience with you along the way so that he
doesn't question wanting to be with you and only
you.

Don't keep making the single biggest mistake
that causes a man to react and bring an early end
to your growing relationship.

I call this mistake the "Instant Relationship."

I'll explain it briefly like this...

*And here's an article I've posted online that's
all about this mistake, and what to do instead to
draw the right man to you and have him quickly
fall for you and want the kind of relationship
that will grow and last:

http://www.CatchHimKeepHim.com/MeetingTheOne


Ok, back to explaining the "Instant
Relationship."

You know how when you meet a man you're sure
is the right one for you... you can just feel it.

When you're together, you feel more comfortable
than you can remember feeling with any man.

You feel like you've known this man most of
your life... even though you've only just met.

And the CONNECTION you share is so amazing and
filled with excitement and CHEMISTRY that there's
no doubt in your mind - this could be the right
one.

As time goes on, you and he fall into a nice
little groove of spending most of your time
together and practically living your lives as
one.

But it hasn't been long at all. A few weeks
or months.

And then it happens-

He does something that let's you know he might
not be truly "in this" with you.

Something about how he talks or acts tips you
off to the fact that something has changed or
shifted about him.

So what do you do...

You ask him about it.

And you ask him to explain why he's acting
weird and different... and you tell him that it's
kind of freaking you out and hurting your
feelings.

You expect him to listen, hear you, and
respond in the sweet and loving way you've known
him to be the whole time you've been with him.

But suddenly he shows you a side of him you've
never seen before.

Suddenly he's no longer open, no longer
affectionate, and you can tell he's holding back
and closed off to you.

You decide to ask him what the deal is, and
what this relationship means to him.

You've got to know. Especially since your heart
is out there on the line... and who knows what's
really going on inside his head now.

But the more you need to hear from him on how
he's feeling... and the more you want to let him
know what's happening for you with all this...
the less he's open to talking.

In fact, the less he even wants to spend time
with you - where before he wanted to be with you
whenever he had free time.

Now he's off wanting to hang out with his
friends, or leaving town, etc.

Or worse, you learn he's out with another
woman.

Argggh... what a jerk!

You can't help wonder what in the world is
going on here, and inside his mind.

And then it hits you after him pulling away
completely-

As much as you knew this was going to be a
great relationship, and you felt how real and
special what you shared was... this wasn't a
"real" relationship at all.

He wasn't really "in it" with you - and his
behavior now shows you that it was this way all
along.

You just didn't see it before.

But he seemed so into you and your relationship,
so how could he have all of a sudden changed his
mind and pulled away?

Let's break it down on what's going on here.

There are a few fascinating things going on
you need to know about...

1) Men have different "Relationship Tempos"

A man can be with a woman, experience an
amazing and special connection with her that
he's never shared with another woman... and he
can have no desire to get into a "relationship"
with her. Even after several weeks or months of
amazing time spent together.

For a man, the CONNECTION does not equal a
relationship.

2) A Man Has More Than One Kind Of "Commitment"
In His Heart

There's something important you need to know
about men and how they "date."

A man can be with a woman, have very strong
feelings for her, and want to spend all his time
with that woman... and be completely content with
the situation only being something he wants to
be in "for now."

A man can even say that he cares for and loves
a woman... but still only have that "for now"
feeling.

On the other hand, when a man feels a different
set of feelings inside himself with a woman, he
can quickly start to feel the "Forever" feelings
where when he builds a relationship with a woman,
it's not with the intention of doing it just "for
now"... but FOREVER.

Now that you know about these 2 important
aspects of how men think... I think you're ready
to see what I mean by the "Instant Relationship"
I mentioned earlier, and how it's a huge mistake
tons of women make with men that drive them away.

The Instant Relationship mistake is when a
woman starts talking, feeling, and acting with a
man in a way that tells him she's already in a
COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP with him - before they
ever have one and the man has developed the
feelings and the desire to truly commit.

when the EXPECTATIONS a woman has for a man
are the kinds of expectations a woman who is in
a long-term committed relationship has of a man,
but there is no commitment yet - it is an instant
attraction killer for a man.

Not only does it kill the attraction a man
feels for a woman... but it actually makes a man
NOT want to explore a relationship with that woman.

For men, when a woman falls into an "Instant
Relationship" with them, it's the #1 turn off and
a guaranteed way to make a man rethink moving
ahead in a more serious relationship.

By the way, you've already heard men talk
about women who make the Instant Relationship
mistake, and you know how men talk and feel about
all this.

This "Instant Relationship" thing is sometimes
just referred to by men as a woman being "needy"
or "clingy."

But the impact of a man seeing or feeling
these things about a woman goes much much deeper
than just words and names.

If you want a man to stay open to you and to
creating a REAL RELATIONSHIP that can and will
grow and last... then I have one simple piece of
advice-

Now that you know what the Instant Relationship
is, and all the behavior that goes along with it
that kills attraction inside men... DO NOT act like
you're in an instant relationship with a man.

That is, unless you want to send him running
for the hills.

To learn exactly what you can do to identify
the right man for you, quickly capture his interest
and attention... and have him PURSUING YOU and
asking you for a more serious relationship, the
secrets I show you in my "Meeting The One" program
will make life and starting your new relationship
with a man fun and easy.

Don't keep repeating the same patterns of
chemistry, dating, and having it go nowhere -
when you can quickly shift things into gear with
a few small changes that will have the man you
want PURSUING YOU for a relationship.